head banging

Stacey - posted on 10/29/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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My son keeps banging his head on everything. when i yell at him to stop then he starts to cry. please tell me other boys/children do this. he is almost one!

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Patricia - posted on 04/22/2013

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My Grandson head butts and he is starting to have a lump on his forhead, he seems to do this whenhe is frustrated, I do not kow what to do, I have read a few stratgies that other parents have used I will give them a go next time he is over .

Heather - posted on 07/24/2012

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hi Help My daughter been heading bang since 9 months old she is two yrs old now and she already damnge almost all the wall? how can i get her stop doing this? i guess i should take her to test to see what wrong with her but her doctor say nothing wrong wtih her it normal in toddlers that does it head banging.. i need find a way how to outgrown of her..
thanks!

Tamsyn - posted on 11/01/2009

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My son like to bang his head to when he was little but with him the doctor said to ignore him when he is doing it unless he is hurting himself and when I started to ignore him he quit so I would talk to your doctor.

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My daughter used to bang her head at that age too.. And she also used to colour coordernate EVERYTHING. She didn't talk properly till she was 2yrs old and walked at 12 months old.. She has just been diagnosed with ADHD and high functioning autism. she's now 9yrs old.. Personaly i think you may need to get a referral to a peadiatrition ASAP. It's taken me 7 and a half years to get my daughter assessed.. Now after all these years i can finally get the right help she needs.. Good luck

Debbie - posted on 10/31/2009

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My son did this too. I agree with another poster, it is something autistic children do. My son was not diagnosed until he was four and at the time I did not know there was a whole spectrum of autism. No one really knows he is autistic now, but he does work with specialists since his way of learning is different at times.
His tolerance for pain is greater than my daughter's so banging his head doesn't bother him. Yet, he didn't like to be held on to, to have his fingernails clipped and band aids used to bother him.
I also read about autistic kids not crying when yelled at. Some do. My son does pay close attention to others, it is just when he is obsessing about things when he zones out and does not pay attention.

Charlie - posted on 10/31/2009

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no one said it wasn't worrying , i am a mother of a headbanger too !

I am just trying to set Stacey's mind at ease it seems there is a lot of fear mongering in this thread , but i totally agree with you Mary it should be stopped before they injure themselves : )

Mary - posted on 10/31/2009

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yes headbanging may be common in young children but that don't mean that it is not worrying for the parent . You need to nick it in the bud as they can injury themselves and they don't know that.

Mary - posted on 10/31/2009

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Rebecca. next time ur child does a tantrum just do one urself lie down shout and act like ur child and u watch the reaction u get. It will be one of shock I bet the tantrums will stop.

Charlie - posted on 10/31/2009

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I wouldn't worry too much amongst my friends ( they all have boys ) every single one of them went through a phase where they would bang their heads on purpose and recently my son has started to do it too , he bangs it on the wall looks at me and laughs .

Please don't worry about the people who have suggested autism as a teacher and a parent and a friend of several woman with boys i can tell you it is VERY common.

Alida - posted on 10/30/2009

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Once in awhile my daughter will be standing on the couch, look at me, and smack her head off the wall... She thinks its funny. I have no idea why but I am pretty sure its normal lol I know a lot of children who do it. And I can honestly say that just because she does it every once in awhile, she is not autistic (she was tested). It probably is just an attention getter though!

Beverly - posted on 10/30/2009

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My son did this when he was little. He would get mad, fall down and have a temper tantrum. When I didn't respond to the tantrum, he would escalate it to bending over and banging his head on the floor, then sit up and scream even louder. For a while there he kempt a bump on his forehead. I would stop him from hitting his head (by putting in the playpen, which had a padded floor) but didn't respond to the head banging like he wanted. He eventually stopped but did and does still have a hot temper(he's 21 now). He does control it pretty much these days, but...can't say the temper thing doesn't come to him honestly though.He is also a very sensitive, caring, smart but shy guy--I think maybe the shyness (trouble expressing the anger) and the bad temper together had something to do with the head banging.

Barb - posted on 10/30/2009

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I know it is not funny but lol, my 16 yr. old did that from the time he was 1 till he was abouit 12, he would head bunt anything including other people he thought it was fun, & other males would love it, they would laugh & say he is very hard headed, he will be good in football, but he is fine & normal today lol.

Deanna - posted on 10/30/2009

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I don't think you need to worry too much. I know other kids who used to do it as well. Though you may want to look at allergies. One of my day home children did this until they figured out he was allergic to milk. When they gave him milk he did it but when he was pulled off of it. It stopped. Another child did it because it was something she could control and she wanted attention. Not sure. He may outgrow it.

Kathy - posted on 10/30/2009

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Yes, other kids do this. It's not uncommon at all, especially among teething babies (pain coping mechanism), so please don't panic. That being said, there are some behaviors that may be early indicators of autism (http://www.autismspeaks.org/whatisit/lea...). Communicate any concerns to your pediatrician, and be mindful of anything that seems off as baby grows and develops. Responsiveness seems to be a common indicator, and I agree with Kelly that it's a good sign that he notices and responds to your disapproval. We noticed that my son liked to rock his head back against a door from time to time. We figured out it he seemed to do it shortly before a tooth eruption, but at first I was panicked too. In all likeliness, your baby will grow out of it very soon and move on to a more exasperating yet perfectly normal toddler behavior. Right now my son thinks trying to bite my nose is hilarious...

Carly - posted on 10/30/2009

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I don't think people should say that the stacey's bub has autisim.,it's only going to frighten her and make her stressed when it may not be that @ all. By all means go and see your dr aout it,but don't stress yourself out thinking that your son has autism stacey when it may not be that @ all and you've stressed for nothin...i was told my son might have muscular dystrophy which really freaked me out...the pedeatrician said it wasn't that @ all...

Rosie - posted on 10/29/2009

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Get your boy tested. It doesnt hurt to get an opinion from the doctor. Good luck Stacey.

And you are right it might be that he is looking for attention.

Stacey - posted on 10/29/2009

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autism doesnt run in the family....he usually does it if he by himself (looking for attention) or when he gets mad....i just cant stand that he does it.

Lisa - posted on 10/29/2009

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the only time my son banged his head was when he was angry. it was a way for him to vent his frustration. watch and see when your son bangs his head, what happened right before hand and write it all down. it will be a good help for your dr.
my son used to throw himself onto the ground and smash his head into the ground...until one day he did it outside on the sidewalk. left a huge purple bruise on his head, but he never banged his head again...
soooooo.....you could always try that...

Pamela - posted on 10/29/2009

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I was going to say the same thing, it sounds like Autism or ADHD. If it is Autism check out his diet, there are certain foods to avoid that can help. Not sure right off hand what they were. Seen on The Doctors show it really made a difference.

Kelly - posted on 10/29/2009

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Oh, the poor thing! I don't claim to know much about autism, but I was thinking that autistic kids don't pay as much attention to others, so I would think he probably wouldn't cry when you yell at him, if he was autistic. Just a thought. I think he might be too young to screen for autism, but I'm sure it would be worth asking your dr. about. But don't panic. Kids do some really funny things. One of my nephews is now almost 15, and for years and years (and actually may still do it for all I know), he would "rock" his whole body when he was getting settled down at night to sleep. It was actually kindof strange, and we really worried about it, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with him, and he actually is extremely gifted (and also athletic!). So it might very well just be something that your son does, and it might not mean a thing. I wouldn't yell at him though, poor little guy HAHA. Seriously, I'm sure you are afraid he will hurt himself, but I think if he once (or twice) does it hard enough to hurt, he will start to learn not to. Good luck, and try not to worry about it.

Rebecca - posted on 10/29/2009

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I hate to ask but does autism run in either family? My newphew did this until he was 6 and found out he was autistic...a little boy i watch who is 2 does this...his parents are gettign him checked next month.

Ask your Dr or join the autism group on here and ask around. It might just be a phase he is going through though. Does he do it if you leave the room or when something is taken from him?

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