Heartbroken

Reena - posted on 09/01/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am heartbroken that my only daughter walked out of our house with nothing to live at a boys house she barely dated. She was a nursing major, money in the bank, job, everything going for her. And just to walk out and leave everything has devastated me. I know everyone will say she an adult and can do whatever she wants. I don't believe everyone at 18 years old are mature and understand the real world. I gave taught my kids about value of money and FAMILY. Your family will b there always no matter what. You should consider your families feelings when you make hurtful choices. The world is not safe. Yes as a mother I will never stop worrying as bout my children. But now my daughter is with a loser, with no job, no money, no education. He has nothing to offer her. They blew through all her money, she quit job, now has dropped out if college. How can a parent not b heartbroken. When their daughter had everything going for her andnow she has nothing. What kind of life is she going to have. When she came from a supportive and loving family to nothing. Not to mention the boys family are totally useless and only want her there so their son is happy. I pray everyday several times a day and hope god will lead her back on the right track.

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Michelle - posted on 09/02/2016

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She is in a controlling relationship but the more you push, the further away she will get.
All you can do is hope that she sees the truth soon.
The amount of women in abusive and controlling relationships that stay for a long time are numerous. At the time they don't see it, I was one of those women. Believe me when I say that the more you say the relationship or him aren't good for her, the longer she will stay.

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Reena - posted on 09/01/2016

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Thanks for the kind thought. I just don't know how to get through the heartbreak I miss her terribly and the silly things we did. I am completely lost and feel horrible that she is missing out on everything she was involved in, clubs, dancer, soriority. She worked so hard for. I know she wants to do these things, but I feel she is being manulipated. So she is with him only. He gets very angry when she talks to me or sees me. He tells her I'm trying to get her away from him. I can't wrap my brain around why she did this just to see boy. She has never had a bf. She has always been nieve and gullible. It just breaks me that she is settling when she can do so much better.

Michelle - posted on 09/01/2016

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Of course you are allowed to be sad about her choices but there is not much you can do.
You have to believe that you did raise her with great values and that she will make the right choice for herself.
As long as she knows that she can come home if things don't work out, that's all you can do.

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