Melinda - posted on 07/28/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )
I'M ABSOLUTELY HEARTBROKEN AND DEVASTATED. My 12 year old daughter has been told for years by her father that left me for another women that she could tell the judge that she could come and live with him when she turned 12. Well, in the state of Oklahoma the Judge will listen to a child that is 12 year old and older on where they would like to live. However, we had a GAL which is a 3rd party attorney that speaks for the children. Our attorney gave us the report when he wasn't suppose to and there were sooooo many exaggerations in it and several lies that it was so completey hurtful to me and my husband. My husband has raised the children since they were 5 and 3, now 12 and 10. We recieved the report hours before court and didn't have a chance to really think about our situation. I went ahead and signed the report thinking that if my daughter wants to go to her dad's that bad, then I needed to let her go to see what it was like. I had no clue that they would make my 10 year old son go too. Now for this next coming school year they are going to live with their dad in CHICAGO!!! So far away I will hardly get to see them. I am in the process of hiring a new attorney that has a 5,000. retainer but why fight it when they want to go and try it out. I'm CRAZY ABOUT MY CHILDREN and have spoiled them rotten over the years with love and attention. I just feel betrayed and so hurt. Their dad now has an infant and a 2 year old that they get to share rooms with when they are up there. Oh, in a 930 square foot home. He also tries to recreate our home here up there and everything that we are involved in. Were going through a crash course of counseling for one month while they are here b/c I'm such a bad mom for having rules and discipline in my home. I'm an educator and we have a loving home so it deeply hurts. Not to mention that the Guardian lied in her report and the kids have disclosed that to the counselor which will come out in court. Are they every going to come home? I'm so depressed and hurt.