heavy heart on my decision about puttin my kids father my child support

Slaangela - posted on 12/27/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




Am I wrong for putting my kids father on child support. even though we came up with an agreement for. Or am I being greedy because he makes close to four grand a month and he gives me five hundred a month.


Ev - posted on 12/27/2013




Laangela, you need to take him to court and get custody, visitation and CHILD SUPPORT set up. Why should he go and make another family without contributing to his first set of kids!!? That is absurd!

You are enabling him to get out of paying his share waiting on the next paycheck so he can pay his bills. In a lot of states if he is making that much, it sure does not work out to $500 a month for two kids. It is a lot more....$4,000 a month times 12 months...figure it out. Depending on the state, if say it was 25% of his gross pay per month that would be $1000. $500 barely covers two kids per month. Since he has moved on and gotten a new girlfriend, what he has in bills is not your worry. If he can not take care of the kids he has, why go make more babies with someone else! Take his butt to court and get the child support your kids deserve.

Jodi - posted on 12/27/2013




Your children have a right to financial support from both parents. There is generally a system or calculation in place based on incomes for a reason, so I see nothing wrong with putting them on child support.

However, having said that, our system here takes into account BOTH parents incomes, and the fact that BOTH parents should be contributing financially. What financial contribution are you making to your children? You shouldn't be expecting him to support them fully, nor should child support be supporting you. You need to be able to pay rent, food, etc for yourself at the very least.


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Slaangela - posted on 12/27/2013




Well I Do Work And I Don't Make Nearly As He Does In A Month I Take Home Less Than A Thousands Month Right Now We Have A Verbally Agreement But Sometime He Tell Me He Don't Have It And That I Have To Wait For His Next Check Because He Had To Pay His Bills And I Just Don't Want At The End Of It All I End Up Getting Screwed Because I Didn't Put Him In The System Especially Since He's In A New Relationship Trying To Start A New Family.I Just Don't Want It To Back Fire And He Takes My Kids From Me Or I Only Get Visitation To See My Boys

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