Christine - posted on 07/24/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
My husband and I have been married for 5 1/2 years, we have two boys. a three year old and a 22 month old. I have grown to resent my husband. He led me to believe that he would be around and help raise our children. However, he works 12 hours a day and works on the house/yard or whatever else on the weekends. It almost seems like he looks for things to do not to spend time with us. Is this normal? Do most women raise their children without help from their husbands? If I had known that I would have to take care of two children and a man child things would have turned out differently. I hear that other couples take turns sleeping in on the weekends. It's rare for me not to wake up with the kids every weekend. I have mentioned to him that I would like one day of the weekend to clean the house and he said that he has things that he has to do. He has even given me a hard time for wanting an hour to shower and get ready on a Saturday. I even put his laundry away and he seems to expect it like it's common place, is it? Sometimes I think it would be easier to do it on my own. I would be happier because I would feel so resentful. My husband expects sex, but to be honest I feel like he doesn't deserve it. Am I a bitch for feeling this way? I once had my husband "watch" the kids while I did groceries and he expected to get lucky because he gave me some "me" time. Really? It's not like I was at a spa or anything. I am so depressed and don't know what to do. Sometimes I feel that I am being selfish by thinking I should leave, I mean I think I could keep going until the boys have moved out and then deal with my personal problems. Is there anyone else that is going through the same thing? My husband is not a bad man, he is a good father and provider, but should that be enough?