HEEELP!!! I AM NOT TRYING TO BE MOM BUT GRANDMA FILLING IN!

KATHLEEN - posted on 01/04/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )

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I am a grandmother. My daughter married a guy from Trinidad who has no papers but she's blindly in love. She has 1 child who is about to turn 2 on the 16th. She just had premature twins June 11,2013, because she was doing too much work, lifting, and climbing stairs. She asked me what should she do, and I told her she is going to have the babies life is a gift from God, and she was already 4 months asking me something like that. Anyway the 2nd twin, was much bigger almost 2 lbs, but came second from c-section, and the 1st twin) was about 1 1/2 lbs. She was told the smaller was conceived on a different day. Anyway the larger twin is home,and from what I hear is less interactive. I don't think they give him much attention because of being overwhelmed with the first, That's just my opinion. Anyway the smaller baby who is now larger than the original largest twin..., due to being fed cereal..., because he has acid reflux..., is still in the hospital. Well yesterday myself and daughter got into a big argument. I spend more time with the baby trying to fill in where she is missing. She works, walks up 5 flights of stairs, has 2 babies at home, and a husband to tend to(more like a child), and she is overwhelmed, and barely goes to the hospital maybe 4-6 days out of the month.(No Daddy doesn't go claiming he got into an argument over his papers at the hospital...ha!!!) I spent the new year bringing it in with the baby, and praying on my knees. My daughter had the nerve to tell me I was only there for income tax, because we were arguing about her not liking how the tubes were on the baby, and she kept messing with the tubes, making the baby cry. For the whole visit she bothered his tubes. He cried because undoubtfuly she was hurting or irirtating him. I got so upset i told her she must want the baby to die, and be f**cking miserable like her. Every1 says she's jealous of how the baby responds to me and our bond. It's not my fault I was just filling in not trying to take her place. I am only trying to help the baby grow developmentally as needed by giving him all the love, and support I can. He is on about 30 percent oxygen c-pap still. ...Heeeelp!

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