Helicopter

Wesley Joseph - posted on 04/26/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Ar you a helicopter mom? Do you tell people off for listening to crtain kind of music and your kids hear it? Or when someone talks about something strange when your kids are near? tell me your stories

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Jodi - posted on 04/26/2013

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Nope. I don't even tell anyone to stop saying "fuck" in front of my kids any more. You know what? I can't control the world. My plan of attack is to educate my children instead. For example, yes, some people speak like that in public, and it sounds terrible, they are adult words, and it isn't okay for YOU to use them. I just figure you can only manage a small part of what your children are exposed to. Sheltering them isn't going to help in the long term. Do you really think, once they get to high school, that you can stop it? Teach them resilience instead. It is a much more valuable skill.

Jodi - posted on 04/29/2013

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I wasn't talking about cussing at kids in my first post. Clearly my second post was making the point that I have reacted when my kids are cussed AT, but that just swearing within earshot is different, and as I said in my first post, I don't see that as something to bother with.

In fact, just to make it clear, my entire point is that if I don't like music or something someone else is talking about or saying within earshot, what right do I have, as a random stranger, to dictate to them what they may or may not listen to and what they may or may not discuss, when what they are doing is not illegal?

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Kristi - posted on 04/29/2013

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Jodi--

You are trying to reason with 1) a man...and 2) who clearly has no idea what a helicopter parent is.

I know you are an educator but sometimes you just have to know when it's time to walk away. ; b lol

Wesley Joseph - posted on 04/29/2013

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I didnt mean someone cussing AT kids, but swearing where they can hear you.

Jodi - posted on 04/26/2013

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Actually, come to think about it, I DID say something once to someone when she told my daughter to get the fuck out of her way in the shopping centre. My daughter was about 4 at the time, and had just wandered in front of this other lady's pram. I told her that if that's how she speaks to her kids, that is her problem, but she has no right to speak to my kid like that and I won't tolerate it. It's one thing to swear and curse, and quite another to swear AT and curse AT.

Unfortunately, however, with that type of person, that particular conversation was always going to end up in a tirade of colourful language from her, so it turned out to be pointless saying anything anyway......

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/26/2013

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What you're describing isn't a helicopter parent.

A helicopter will not allow their child to do anything for themselves. They must be in complete and total control of everything their child does from birth through their (sometimes) adult lives. At best, it ends when they turn 21.

Helicopter parents call the college advisor to tell them what classes their angel should take. They make every single daily decision for their little angels, even into adulthood.

I have had to ask several parents to step out of my office during an advising appointment because they couldn't understand that their student needed to be making his own career and life choices.

However, Jodi has an excellent point. You are trying to control every aspect of what your child comes into contact with. That won't work. You cannot put your child in a bubble and keep the world away. The more practical approach is as Jodi describes.

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