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im a teen FTM , to a beautiful babygirl , i had unprotected sex 4 weeks pp cause my bleeding stop, and my partner finished in me, two weeks or 3 weeks after i had bleeding but it was heavier & it lasted 6 days like a regular period, for 4 days i been having light menustraul cramps and lower back pain the same kinds i experienced when i was preggo with the first one , can i possibly be pregnant ?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/21/2016

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Ah the level of maturity...

"I make wiser choices" Yeah, right! Wiser choices do not include going against your physician's directions TO NOT engage in sexual activity until after your 6 week visit, child!

Why is it a problem? Well to be frank, it really isn't any of our problem, but you made it our business by posting for the world to see on the internet. BEING stupid is different than making stupid choices. No one called you stupid, but you ARE making stupid choices, and you have to face that.

Is your boyfriend such a lout that he is demanding sex before it is healthy for you, of did you just figure that you "knew better"?

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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You just have not had time to see how hard this is going to be being so young. Yes, a lot of women have sex early in teens and some have kids. But that does not mean that you are ready for raising a kid. Its not easy even as an adult. I was not even really ready at 21 to be a mother but I had to step up to it.

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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Everyone is entitled to a mistake. But you said yourself at 4 weeks you were having sex which is not what a doctor would advise until you had been past 6 weeks after having a baby. And you are setting yourself up to have two. Your life is not ever going to be yours to do with as you please. You are now going to have to parent a child and that child's every need is going to take p residence.

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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Actually, my daughter was 21 and expecting before she got married. I was the same age and in the same situation. But we both were and still are adults. You should know by now that you can get pregnant without protection period. You should also be allowing your body time to heal and come back to what it needs to. Instead you are playing a dangerous game with your health and setting yourself up to have two babies barely a year apart because you are not thinking.

Michelle - posted on 08/21/2016

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Well you are coming here asking a bunch of strangers on the other side of a computer screen if you are pregnant. How would we know?
You take a test or see your doctor.
I would say the 1st one would be a mistake, not any others.
My cousin has had 8 children to 5 different Fathers and the 1st one was when she was 17. That was a "mistake" but she keeps popping them out.
If you want to be like her then fine, she's now 37. What a way to ruin your life since she is a single Mother to 8.

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Sarah - posted on 08/23/2016

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Myranda, start a new thread, you are posting on a unrelated thread by a deleted account.

Aikman48 - posted on 08/23/2016

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Help! My sons father is trying to take my son away! My sons father im gonna call him Bob for now well anyways bob was extremely abusive to me in past during pregnancy an a month after birth he was even more violent I ended up calling police but he manged to not get arrested for the physical abuse he has done to me and some how had a cop try to arrest me for whatever reason but the cop just filed a report then after that I went to live with my dad and since I moved in with my dad when my child was one month old the father has called dcf on me making false claims about how I beat and rape my child when I dont if I did my sons pediatrician would of reported me obviously the father refuses to pay child support and has created multiple fb accounts to harrase me as well as his new gf post on her page that I kidnapped my own kid and the baby is really hers the father even threatens to break in my dad and uncle's house to take the child as well as he said he is going to take me to court for child abuse neglect bc my son has a procedure being done in future bc he has some health issues from being a preme baby what can I do to get this to stop? I deal with enough anxiety and stress as is child support people refuse to go after him as well I tried getting a lawyer but im piss poor broke and only extent of help from family is just a home to live in and they wont help me get a lawyer I just want this so called pos father gone and out of my life and my child's life he is extremely abusive and manipulative as well as he doesnt even want the responsibility of a child bc he parties like crazy is extremely lazy and when I was with him a month after my son being born he refused to change babys diapers when asked bc I was busy cooking or cleaning and he wouldnt baby either or occasionaly get up throughout night to feed baby so I could get some sleep he stayed up all night and kept me up to with him and then slept in refusing to get up and go to work he me extremely sleep deprived to point I was dellusion and cried for hours out of frustation bc I was already a shitty sleeper as he has done nothing but cause problems and raise my anxiety levels to go the extreme including stress levels im 20 and been told I can stroke out if I dont get my anxiety and stress in control

Michelle - posted on 08/21/2016

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Another deleted account because we pointed out the truth.
Maybe her parents should be giving her some home truths as well.

Dove - posted on 08/21/2016

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lol If my teen daughter had a baby and was still having sex... you're darn right I'd call her stupid... because teens have no business having sex in the first place and only an idiot would continue having UNPROTECTED sex while also having a newborn...

Next...

Dove - posted on 08/21/2016

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Just read Ev's response to me and nothing else yet. Oh yeah Ev... all kinds of stuff bothers me about this, but I figured I would start off nice instead of w/ a big fat 'DUH!'... lol Off to read now....

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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You may have not been speaking to me per say, but as I said none here attacked you. I just wonder though why you would put yourself in a situation to have a second child when you have said you know it is not easy or fun but having unprotected sex is not gong to make it easier but harder than with having to care for one. Why put yourself in this situation.

Michelle - posted on 08/21/2016

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I planned every single one of my 3 children. I was 26 when I had my 1st and I was sexually active from 15. I just knew what birth control was and made sure I didn't have a baby that wasn't planned.
You aren't understanding what I'm saying though, if you think you are pregnant, take a test. We have no idea if you are or not.
You asked if you could possibly be pregnant, of course, you had unprotected sex. You should know that unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy.

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i never said it was easy , or fun . but im forced to grow up . so thats what im doing . thank you for your help

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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I never felt that way about my kids so do not go there please. I never said your child was not a blessing. No one has said that. No one has called you stupid. But we are telling you how it is. You wanted to know if you could get pregnant again so soon...you got that answer and a few others. No we do not know you but we go by what the post has in it. And you seem to think it is okay to have sex 4 weeks after a baby is born and set up for another one to come along. You are clearly not thinking about protection or trying to keep it from happening again.

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but i still dont see how thats your problem rather im young or not . and other mothers on this page had sex unprotected wayyyy earlier than i did . is their decision stupid too ? and my life isnt over cause ihave a baby , i just limit the things i do and i make wiser choices .

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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No one said you were stupid but you are making foolish choices. Why set yourself up for another baby when you have a new one right now. One is hard enough to take care of let alone two. For adults it is not easy raising children. How can you so callously have sex without thinking about the consequences of it? You already gave up life as you knew it when you had this baby. You are never going to be able to have the same life the teens you know still do because you are now responsible for a child. Why make it two? And why go against doctor's orders and not wait until 6 weeks postpartum checkup to have sex? It is dangerous to do so. You could cause yourself somehealth issues.

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why is that your problem though ? its mine . i asked for help not criticisim . . & if your child was in the same predicament you wouldnt want nobody calling your daughter stupid . fuck off my post

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first of all you dont need to be calling me stupid , cause everyone makes mistakes . & yea im young but why is that your problem ?

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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Micelle--I posted on the other one and I am moving the reply here.

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Yes it is always a possiblity. But you should have waited for the 6 weeks doctor appointment to come before doing this because you are still healing at 4 weeks. And you are a teen and you should not be having sex without being protected in the first place. Why are you having sex again so soon anyway? Do you really think you need more kids?

Michelle - posted on 08/21/2016

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Well you know how babies are made since you already have one. Why are you stupid enough to have unprotected sex again? If you can't tell your boyfriend to use a condom or abstain from sex then you you really shouldn't be having it.
Of course you could be pregnant, you had unprotected sex. Go and see your doctor and some birth control!!!!

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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Dove, does it not bother you that she is already got one infant and is setting herself up for another?

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