Hello everyone, I am 19 & mother of 2, my youngest son is severely disabled and this has resulted in his dad walking out on us because he can't face the responsibility, he was all for the baby until we discovered my son was disabled, it actually makes me sick that he can walk out on 2 beautiful children and he doesn't even acknowledge my eldest son now.. I recently found out he has been telling people that I have kept the children from him because he can't admit the truth! Am I wrong for not wanting him round my children at all? They deserve better then this and my youngest should never have to fell he's not loved because of his problems

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Jodi - posted on 09/28/2014

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You're right, he doesn't deserve it, but I'd say that if he is young too, it may be that he is having huge difficulties accepting and coming to terms with it. It could very well be he just needs the time and space to process it. How old is your youngest? He possibly can't admit the truth because it is so hurtful to him, and the least hurtful way to explain to people why he can't see his child is to blame you. Is it possible he just can't cope with the truth yet? Maybe he sees his sons disability as an inadequacy in himself? I can't say what he is feeling, but It's highly possible he still isn't mentally able to deal with it all.

Ayesha - posted on 09/28/2014

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No he has always has open access, I grew up without my dad and would never want that for my children. I mean "not wanting him around them" in a sense of I'm hurt he could walk away because of my baby's disabilities and he can't admit it to anyone else only me which I have written proof of, he's making out that I'm keeping him from them to spite him which isn't the case at all, I just mean he deserve to be around my children if he can't accept our youngest sons disabilities

Jodi - posted on 09/28/2014

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Have you kept the children from him? When you say "Am I wrong for not wanting him round my children at all?" that indicates the father HAS attempted to see his children and you have said no.

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