Hello, I am new to this all. I am being denied contact with my 5 grandchildren. I have 2 daughters, one has 2 children, the other has 3 children. I am devasted. Suicidial. I used to look after my oldest daughter's children. I quite my full time employment to do this. My daughter was so happy with this arrangement but then things changed after she had her second child, my grandson. My son in law was never very friendly to us but we were respectful. My daughter asked me for a loan to put on our mortgage as she was in debt, we couldn't do it..what if one of them lost their job, what if my husband lost his job..as actually happened in Jan 2013, he's 58 and having a difficult time finding employment. My daughter was angry that we didn't help her out. She accused us of playing favorites, as we co signed a loan for our son to buy a car ($5,000) but he was making payments and paid off the car. It was not the same situation. Her and her spouse didn't get married until April 2013 and I was not included in any of the planning..She even accused me of

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Rita - posted on 03/13/2014

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there really isn't anything for grandparents here in Ontario Canada..other provinces have laws in effect as of recently due to the increase in cases like this..however, I couldn't go to a lawyer as we just can't afford this cost right now, my husband has been out of work for about 1 year now. Also, I was looking after my grandchildren since 2007 but in August 2013 my daughter gave me notice (said this will make our relationship better..??) I quit my job to look after her children as she couldn't find suitable and safe daycare and couldn't afford a Daycare Center. She promised my she would never move the children to her boyfriend's mom (she had some accidents with young children in her home) as she didn't trust her..but then after her and her boyfriend got married things really changed. I get the feeling that he promised he would marry her if she took the kids to his mom. You see, her husband was never the friendliest to us but we always treated him with respect. He very rarely came over, even for special occasions (which I had to hold on other days because his mom wanted them there on those days)..I just don't know what to make of everything..I am totally confused.

Rita - posted on 03/13/2014

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Thank you Constance..I do have many pictures from before but not the last year or so. I have already bought their Easter presents. I just don't know how it will go. I am just very very hurt. I am a good mom and my husband is a good father. We just don't have the money to help in "big" ways. We ourselves struggled for many years but our children never did without but were not spoiled either. also for some reason my comment didn't finish...the rest should have read: she even accused me of being "difficult" about her wedding..but I never ever was included nor did I complain..it was her wedding.

Constance - posted on 03/13/2014

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Sadly people use children to hurt others. I am sorry your daughter keeps your grandchildren from you. Just keep trying to show your grandchildren that you love them and want a relationship with them (examples) christmas and birthday cards, letters, etc... hopefully your daughter will come to hear senses. Another good idea, make a scrape book. Put pictures of you and your husband in it, little notes, wishes, Etc... that way, if you do get to see them, you can show them how much you thought about them and loved them.

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