Hello. I'm new to the community. I joined after reading some amazing responses regarding teenagers!! I have a teenaged boy who refuses to study for his tests. So I'm hoping to find some helpful advice from moms who have been in my shoes! Again..hello to everyone!

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Jodi - posted on 10/04/2012

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Often kids don't see the point in studying. And if they can't see the point, they just don't have the focus. This is usually the result of having no real life goals. Does he know what he wants to do when he has finished school? If so, you can use that to guide him. If not, then maybe you need to explore this with him. I teach at a high school, and I find that the students who know what they want are the ones who are really diligent and focused students. The ones who have no idea, or think it will just fall in their laps tend to live for the next recess break so they can play football, and are far less focused on their school work. It is also important he understand the consequences of not doing the work. At that age, you can't force him to do it, but you can make sure he is fully aware of the consequences to his future, and how it will impact on his choices later in life.

Lorie - posted on 10/04/2012

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Hi Angela

Getting my teenage son to study has been a problem for my family as well. College admissions are more competitive than ever so resolving this issue quickly is important.

I noticed that once my son got home and became engrossed in games, TV or texting, it was virtually impossible to get him to the table to do his studies.

Try what worked for me: I pick my son up from school with a high protein snack and water. Dehydration can be a big problem for young people making it difficult to concentrate. When we get home I set the timer for a 30 minute break, then it is homework time. I reserve paperwork, light reading sometimes even simple craft projects for this time of day and I sit with at the table with my son. He studies for a bit and then I quiz him giving him lots of praise. Sometimes I sit with him as long as 2 hours.

His testing grades improved immediately from low c's to high a's.

My plan is to slowly absent myself from the table as he becomes more independent.

I know this sounds like a lot of work and it is but the pay off for our family is well worth it!

I would also suggest starting college visits Freshmen year, it is difficult for their young minds to grasp why they should study and a college visit lets them see what the reward is going to be.

Good Luck!

Lorie

www.loriefangio.wordpress.com

Lorie - posted on 10/04/2012

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Hi Angela

Getting my teenage son to study has been a problem for my family as well. College admissions are more competitive than ever so resolving this issue quickly is important.

I noticed that once my son got home and became engrossed in games, TV or texting, it was virtually impossible to get him to the table to do his studies.

Try what worked for me: I pick my son up from school with a high protein snack and water. Dehydration can be a big problem for young people making it difficult to concentrate. When we get home I set the timer for a 30 minute break, then it is homework time. I reserve paperwork, light reading sometimes even simple craft projects for this time of day and I sit with at the table with my son. He studies for a bit and then I quiz him giving him lots of praise. Sometimes I sit with him as long as 2 hours.

His testing grades improved immediately from low c's to high a's.

My plan is to slowly absent myself from the table as he becomes more independent.

I know this sounds like a lot of work and it is but the pay off for our family is well worth it!

I would also suggest starting college visits Freshmen year, it is difficult for their young minds to grasp why they should study and a college visit lets them see what the reward is going to be.

Good Luck!

Lorie

www.loriefangio.wordpress.com

Angela - posted on 10/04/2012

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Thanks for the advice Robert. I will definitely try that approach w/him. He's 17, so he won't let me hug him too much LOL..but I will definitely try to do it more - especially when he needs to study.

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