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Naledi - posted on 02/08/2016 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 year old girl, she does not want solid food but she is now underweight, she only takes milk. What can i do so that she can eat solid foods.

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Ev - posted on 02/08/2016

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Then it is time to get radical. Stop giving her milk all the time. Put out a plate of food in front of her and tell her she needs to eat it. If she does not, then put it up for a while and offer it later. Give her water to drink. She is not going to like it but after a few tries she might just start eating something. It is not good for her to be on only milk and you have obviously given in to her in this. Giving in to a child's desires is not healthy as it leads to giving in to other things when they get older. She won't starve but maybe she will start to eat.

Michelle - posted on 02/08/2016

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I think you should look into some parenting classes or even read some parenting books. You need to set boundaries and be in control and not let a toddler run the house. If you can't control her behaviour now, you are going to be in real trouble when she's a teenager.
You need to learn how to say no and enforce it. Toddlers are there to push the limits to see how far they can go, this sets the stage for the rest of their childhood. If they get their own way now then it's bad news later.

Sarah - posted on 02/08/2016

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This is a time to gather your courage and remember; If I discipline my child, she will still love me. You cannot let your child run the home because you are afraid how she will react to your discipline. No milk until she eats, no throwing toys, no hitting are simple rules that she can understand. You need to be 100% consistent. No matter how much she begs, screams or cries; you will not cave in until she complies with the rules.
I do think it is worth talking to her doctor about her diet. Maybe a referral to a dietitian will help?

Dove - posted on 02/08/2016

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You don't be easy on her negative behaviors though. While it is completely normal and age appropriate for her to be throwing fits and it is important for you to try to be patient... it is also extremely important that she learns that throwing fits is NOT how you get what you want.

Dove - posted on 02/08/2016

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I agree w/ Evelyn entirely. Unless she has some sort of delays or mental/emotional disorders... she'll eat soon enough. Offer her a variety of healthy foods (and some 'fun' stuff) at regular intervals and try to relax... even though you are rightfully worried about her weight. The less stress you can bring to meals... the better. Do not let her run the show, but remain calm and matter of fact about it.

Keep the milk out of sight until she eats a certain number of bites (maybe 3-5 to start) and then she can have a couple of ounces of the food supplement... a few more bites and a couple of ounces of milk. Do NOT allow anything to drink other than water in between meals and scheduled snacks (and keep the amount of milk/supplement to a maximum of 2-3 ounces during snacks... and only after a few of bites of regular food).

Peanut butter and avocado (and other foods) are good for healthier fats and calories.

It also sounds like the two of you might benefit more from some additional professional intervention... and like Evelyn mentions... be completely honest about the issues you are having. It's OK to need help, but the only one that can make that happen is you.

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Naledi - posted on 02/08/2016

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I have learnt a lot, its not always easy to be a young mother but i am going to give it my best

Naledi - posted on 02/08/2016

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Wow i really appreciate that, thank you very much from now on i will be easy on her and try to understand how she communicates

Dove - posted on 02/08/2016

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If she throws things at you do you take those things away? If she is screaming at you she may needs a few minutes alone in her room to calm down... Followed by a hug (some kids need comfort to calm themselves... some get more worked up w/ it) and then being told something she CAN do... instead of whatever it was that you had to stop her from.

3 is typically a REALLY rough age... for kids AND their parents, but w/ time and consistent discipline and guidance things will get better. Freaking out when they don't get their way is perfectly normal... it's how you respond (ignoring it or calmly removing the child from the room or the forbidden object from the child) that is important right now.

Breathe! She's supposed to be driving you nuts right now. You guys can get through this. ♥

Naledi - posted on 02/08/2016

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I have a problem with feeding her, getting her to bed or just to telling her to do something and even when i want her to stop something, she would scream and throw things at me

Dove - posted on 02/08/2016

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You don't have to yell to discipline. Though I admit I tend to be a yeller and none of my kids hate me (14, 14, and almost 8). What you do depends on what situations you are having w/ her. I think if you can tackle a few of the other struggles and she learns that mom is in charge... the food issue 'may' resolve itself somewhat.

What types of troublesome situations are you having w/ her?

Naledi - posted on 02/08/2016

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I dont know how to discipline her, she never listen to me and i fear that when i yell at her she will hate me

Naledi - posted on 02/08/2016

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Wow i have no idea of how to handle her when it comes to meal times thank you once again.

Ev - posted on 02/08/2016

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You are welcome but I do suggest you talk to her doctor about this behavior and do not leave anything out like the fact you let her have the milk when she won't eat. Also when doing this praise her for the effort of a few bites because that is more than she was doing before. Each time she does eat praise it. The more she gets that the more she may eat. Only give her milk after she has eaten something no matter how little or a lot. Only give it at meals. If the doctor suggests Pedisure or some form of this to help her gain weight, make sure she has food first and then that last. I have known kids to be given it at the meal and then only wanted it over the food. Its an additional supliment to help give her the needed vitamins and such she needs. She needs to get the most of it from food though. If you can not afford the Pedisure, try Carnation Instant Breakfast only after she has had some food.

Naledi - posted on 02/08/2016

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She only takes 3 or 4 spoons, if i force her to eat she will spit the food and refuse to eat. I took her to a detician but she is refusing to eat the supplements that are given. She only wants milk

Ev - posted on 02/08/2016

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Has she ever had solid foods? Do you give milk on demand when she wants it? As for her being under weight, you should be taking her to a doctor and getting that remedied.

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