Lizbeth - posted on 02/17/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am a working mother of a 10 month old and 4 1/2 year old. My elder one was taken care of by my mom until she turned 2, after which she attended preschool full-time. My mom now takes care of the baby during the day.
I'm at my wit's end with my 4 1/2 year old because she is so attached to me. Only mommy can put her to bed, and she wants me to stay until she falls asleep. If I don't, she cries and throws tantrums. At the dinner table, she not only has to sit next to me, she has to be touching me... you get the picture.
She was sleep-trained at 16 months and went to bed with no problems until about 3 yrs old. Before I was pregnant with my second, I would insist on her falling asleep by herself after books, stories, and a snuggle. However, while pregnant I finally relented and would fall asleep next to her after the bedtime routine (partly because I felt guilty, partly because when pregnant I could fall asleep standing up). I partly hoped that she would be less attached if I just spent more time with her.
Well, it didn't work out that way. She is more attached than ever, and I'm wondering if this is normal. I know some kids need adjustment time after a sibling is born, but I really need to know if I am doing something wrong. I never get to put the baby to bed because my eldest demands me.
Tonight, the baby is sick so I left the room soon after stories to tend to the baby. The 4 yr old whined and cried for an hour...