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Suzie - posted on 07/23/2012

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I like you Louise! I have been there... with a controlling husband that was just an ass all the time. The moment I started calling him on it... standing up for myself was the moment things started changing. I divorced him... so unfortunately it didn't work out. But I became me again. File for temporary orders. I filed for temporary orders but didn't ask for child support until the divorce was final... and holy crap... I ended up the mortgage and all the bills (it was all in my name) and all child support expenses on my own and I wasn't even living in the house; I was living with my parents. He was living in the house until the divorce was final.

If you really want to leave. You have to file temporary orders and that includes child support. You dont' want to have to do what I did and exist on no child support for 5 kids for however long he could think to drag out the divorce proceedings. And if he knows he doesn't have to pay anything until it was final, there is no incentive to end the divorce. It was a year long nightmare!

Louise - posted on 07/23/2012

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Sarah is right. He is trying to control you so call his bluff. The kids will be fine sleeping in the car and it is all an adventure to them. Get your daughter to the airport and get the kids home safely then tell him what a twat he is that he made you do that. Two can play at his games. Dont tell him about things that involve the kids. He will soon learn he has to be nice to you. File for maintenance as well that will show him how serious you are that you are leaving him permanently. Good luck it is a bit of a treck but the kids will be fine. Your husband on the other hand is simply a prat!

Suzie - posted on 07/23/2012

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Sounds like you need to get up at 1:30 am, let the kids sleep in the car.... Or send all of the other kids to a friends house the night before so you are only waking up one kid at 1:30am. Call his bluff. Tell him you will wake all the kids up at 1:30am and load them up. You can work your disagreements out later. Right now you need his help. The kids will get over it. Its a one time thing.

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