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Lauren - posted on 10/09/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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So my husband has lots of women friends and I talk to most of them and I don't mind if he talks to them. he runs with a volunteer fire co. so alot of them run with that! But heres the thing this girl (miranda) that is part of the fire co. she used to be friends with me but started alot of drama with me and my family she had some guy show up at my house threating to beat my husband up with my 3 year old daughter here. now all of a sudden I noticed he's been texting alot so I asked him who he is texting and he told me Miranda (thats the girl who started drama) but anyways I was so mad and asked him what hes saying to her so he showed me all the messages from her and they were all there since I checked the phone bill the texting portion so I could make sure he wasn't hiding anything. well nothing bad was said he was joking around alot (which he likes to do) but I don't like the fact that he can just forgive someone over all the stuff they did to me and my family they had some guy show up at my house,was prank calling me at all hours of the night while we were sleeping,had there mom calling me threating to kick my a** and telling me I was a bad mom and a whole bunch of bull! I don't want him talking to her 'cause of all this stuff she did to us well he said to me he dosen't understand why he has to when nothing is going on and friends can forgive friends but I don't feel like that when it comes to things like this! they don't talk about anything bad! But I want him to stop talking to her just casue I don't want trouble and drama and she was starting rumors that he was cheating on me and we ended up in a big fight over it (that was about a year ago) things were going good in my relationship until this! Now when I ask him why he just dosen't stop he starts bringing up how if he quits talking to her I'll find something else to b**** about casue thats all I do! I don't know what to do anymore I don't know if I should leave him or just let it go! Also this girl is 18 he is 29 and I am 24! I trust him but she is the one I don't trust I really don't think anything is going on cause it said in the messages that she would stop talking to him if I didn't like it and hes home most of the time unless hes at work (which is right by our house) or hes at the fire hall (usually when hes there I am there and a whole bunch of other people are there) I'm not trying to make excuses either for him I don't wanna make sure you all get the facts straight! I don't know what to do I feel like I am losing my mind!!!?? PLEASE HELP!

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Katherine - posted on 10/10/2012

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Nope. Not her relationship. It's HIS. And yours. He's the one responsible, not her. Who knows if he leading her on? As far as rumors go---ignore it. She's 18, a baby, and she's acting like one.

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Lauren - posted on 10/10/2012

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Thank you! I wouldn't say hes leading her on like today I looked at the phone bill and she is the one who normally texts first...... I saw all the messages hes sending her and its mostly about work and fire co. realted but its still gets under my skin!!! I don't understand what is so wrong with me?? I am not lazy I always help with stuff around the house I give him sex like I just don't get it!!!?

Lauren - posted on 10/10/2012

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I'm ready to leave I looked up divorce papers and everything If this dosen't stop! Would you confront the girl? I had asked her why she talks to my husband via text and I got no response from her! I just feel like she is going to start trouble and spread rumors cause she likes to do it!

Katherine - posted on 10/09/2012

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Tell him to STOP the involvement with her. NO ONE who is married does that kind of crap. How old is he 12? Not to mention that's just disgusting that she's 18. The whole thing about what she caused would have me mad too! Why would he still be talking to this girl? I would NOT trust him. He needs to stop. NOW.

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