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Ashley - posted on 02/25/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My one year old does not listen. I will tell her no a thousand times and move her from things and distract her but nothing works. And I can't turn my back for a second before she's on the couches or in the blinds!! How can I control this??

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/25/2013

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keep up as you have begun. Constant redirection, consistent consequences. Perhaps, next time you redirect her from the blinds, you tell her "next time, you will be put in the timeout chair". Then, when she's back in the blinds as soon as you turn your back, put her in the chair for 2 minutes. When she gets back into the blinds, put her back in the chair, etc.

And, yes, if that doesn't work, a quick pop on the butt will also reinforce that you mean business. I DO NOT MEAN BEAT YOUR CHILD WITH IMMUNITY, before anyone calls me out on that. But a quick pop on a diapered butt will bring a "sound" that will get their attention.

As far as the couches, if she's agile enough to climb on them, she's bouncy enough to fall off. And falling off isn't a bad thing...it teaches that if we don't listen to momma, sometimes bad things happen and we bump our noggin. Just move the coffee table away so that she doesn't run into that on her way down.

Mind you, I've raised both of my kids, so you could consider my advice "out of date"...but it's tried and true...the same way my grandparents raised me, I raised my kids, and they're great adults.

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Ashley - posted on 02/25/2013

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She is my first and i enjoy spending my weekends where she is with her father with my fiancé. But during the week I get no time between her, the fiancé and our puppy!! And I mean I know things will never be sane but sometimes I just feel so helpless.... Like she's so independent and wants to do everything on her own and when I try to play with her she don't wanna play with me but she wants to touch and be on everything! Is she too young to understand time outs?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/25/2013

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LOL...sane???

Is this your first, Ashley? \

Sane doesn't happen in my house! LOL...I settle for even keel.

But, seriously, when they were little guys, I had to make sure I had "me" time. Whether that was an hour in the tub, or a haircut, or a drink with my friends, or bingo night...I had that time. And trust me, it comes in handy, especially as they move from the baby to the toddler stage, and you're thinking "WHAT NEXT?>??"

And, as mine got older, and understood that momma wasn't mean on purpose (because I never let them do anything fun like hang with the blinds or trampoline on the sofa), but because I liked them and wanted them around, it got easier. But, I do remember restructuring just about our entire lives to fit around those little people, and wondering if it would ever be sane again...

Now, on the other end of the spectrum, I kinda miss the zany toddler years. My kiddos are grown (or almost), and they don't NEED me to say "no, stay out of ( )" any more. They do, however still need money, rides (well one does), and fed...LOL...and that's a lot more expensive at 15 & 18!

It all balances out. It just doesn't seem so right now! And I know you're thinking "Yeah, right, lady! " But, I promise. To be quite honest, what kept me sane then was that angelic "I love you, momma" that goes right along with the big hug...made (and still makes) it all worth it

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