Jennifer - posted on 08/12/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been together since we were 14, we married young, had kids young and we are now the parents to two adult children, our daughter and her husband live with us and our son and his finance live close by. I feel like I have everything in life, including our amazing 7month old grandson. The problem is my husband and I have a hard time with understanding our son in law. He has a hott temper and it goes off every once in a while and it is hurtful to us and our daughter says it is also hurtful to him. He doesn't seem to understand the concept of respecting us in our own home and I am not sure how we can work this out. It is my tone, my daughter says I am very mean towards him 100% of the time and I don't believe that is true. I do defend myself and my husband and daughter whenever I need to. They need to live with us because they are from two different countries and they need a place to live with their son and dogs. I have always been the more the merrier and very open and kind. I have never felt mis-treated the way I do around my son-in-law and our daughter can't take it anymore, I know that if I just say go - we will lose her and her family, this is not something I want. Nor does my husband. How do we make a mend and live under one roof? How do we strengthen our relationship and stop the rude and mean remarks? Does anyone understand what we are facing? I want it to work, I am so proud of my family and how far my husband and I have come - it is truly a blessing. I don't want to lose her and her husband and baby and dogs - I just can't figure out how to live the way we are living without another outbreak and them taking off to live wherever, which is nowhere, it's stressing me out. I love my daughter too much, I know I can be a better person. I can't speak for my son in law. I hope he can find a way to get over whatever it is that bothers him and not treat us like we are his equal, we are his mother and father in law, we are there for them, always will be. How do we get respect and how does our daughter not see what he is doing?