HELP!!

Tiffany - posted on 12/05/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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When my 6 yr old was born I was a single mom working 3 jobs and going to school so my mom stepped up to the daddy role I guess ud say and for first 2 yrs my mom was taking care of her as much as I was. That built a strong bond between my mom and daughter I know then came a bad time in my life one I'm not proud of and once again my mom was raising my daughter when I fell short. I am now married and we have a 15 month old. I am working full time some days but mostly nights so I don't see my 6 yr old hardly at all bc of her being in school. When she is home I am either chasing the baby around or catching up on housework and here lately me and my husband have been arguing more so I find myself telling my 6 yr old "hold on" or "just a minute" whenever she asks me for something. I know I don't give her the attention she is used to and I know I am short tempered with her bc of all that's going on in my life right now and it kills me. Needless to say she asks constantly to go to my mom's (who's house is next door) she stays at my mom's more than here these days and I feel like she is slipping away from me. I try to talk to her but she just shuts down and then asks to go to mom's. Can someone please give me some advice? How do I get my relationship back? I don't want to be jealous of my mother's relationship with her but I kinda am I feel like my daughter doesn't even love me anymore and has replaced me

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Tiffany - posted on 12/05/2015

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Thanks Madison! The nights I don't work I try to watch a TV show with her or sit down and read a book with her but something always interrupts us or I'm so tired when I do sit down I fall asleep. We have had 2 movie dates just the two of us and while we were gone things seemed like normal then we pull up at home and it vanishes again. She has even asked me before if I wish things were like they used to b when it was just me and her I asked if that's how she felt and she said yes. Maybe the housework could go a night or two a week and we could have a play date thanks again!

Madison - posted on 12/05/2015

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Perhaps your husband or mom could watch the younger one for 30 minutes each night while you have quality time with the 6 year old, or make a plan to spend time together, even it is just a 5 minute check in, after the little one goes to bed. If she knows that you will reserve the time for her, she might wait to try to speak to you so she won't be put off or interrupted.

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