Help - am totally frustrated - my child will not sleep!

ASHA - posted on 01/04/2011 ( 66 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 13 months and wakes up every 2-3 hours at night. I have tried everything i know; I have tried to let her cry it out for 3 days she cried non stop for over an hour and woke up my 3 year old son and this turned out to be a nightmare for everyone. I tried stopping her night feedings but again she would cry non stop; once i feed her she goes back to sleep only to wake up again 2 or 3 hours later. She eats well during the day and before bedtime. I tried a warm bath and warm milk before bedtime - didnt work. I tried sleeping with her but she still wakes up. I cut down her daytime naps to only one 1 hour nap but that still didnt help. I have taken her to the doctor and she got a clean bill of health; he suggested all the above but nothing is working. This has been going on for 4 months now and I am going crazy and feeling very frustrated - help moms; please

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Renae - posted on 01/04/2011

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I can help you. Waking every 2 hours is not out of hunger at her age so it is very unlikely to have anything to do with the amount she eats. Also, never reduce day sleep! Reducing day sleep can ONLY make the night waking WORSE, it will not and can not make it better. It is a physiological fact that babies sleep better when they have not become overstimulated during the day. Go back to 2 day sleeps, one mid-morning and one mid-afternoon straight away.

Basically, your daughter needs to learn to go to sleep by herself, without you in the room and then she will sleep through the night. I can give you a plan to follow that will teach her this, without any crying or distress, but I need to know where you are starting from. How do you currently get her to sleep at bedtime and how do you get her back to sleep during the night?

In the mean time, if you do not have a bedtime routine, start one and be consistent, do the same things in the same order at roughly the same time every night (with the exception of special occasions).

Renae - posted on 01/05/2011

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Due to recent SIDS research doctors are now no longer allowed to prescribe melatonin under 3 years of age. Until 5-10 years ago, it was used frequently by family doctors, some think it was used too frequently as a first option instead of a last resort, so its use is now frowned upon and in some cases outright unallowed. I personally think they have gone too much the other way, yes it was over used, but that is no reason to stop using it completely.

In my opinion, I do not think this is a suitable case for meds just yet as behaviour modification usually works. If it doesn't and there turns out to be additional things going on, then yes it may be a good option in the future. Christi's case is a very different situation to yours - I feel for you Christi, sleep problems like your sons are very difficult to deal with.

Christi - posted on 01/05/2011

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If all else fails I would ask your doctor about giving her a sleep aid. My son is Autistic and has never ever been able to keep a 'normal' sleep schedule. I am talking up for two to three days at a time and then crashing for an entire day, or having his days and nights reversed for months at a time. He is taking an all natural herbal sleep aid called Melatonin and it has literally changed everything. It does not drug them, but helps lull them to sleep and helps them stay asleep. My son takes 2mg, we started him at 1mg and it helped, but he wasn't able to sleep all night. I would clear it with your doc, but it might be something to consider. It can be found at any Albertson's, Wal-Mart, CVS, ect in the herbal section. Hope this helps!

Stifler's - posted on 01/04/2011

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have you checked her gums? she might be getting some more teeth and is in pain and that's why she's waking up.

Blackwood - posted on 01/25/2011

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I think that most of the issues parents have are to do with sleeping and eating. My son at 17 months just started to wake up only once during the nite and I give him a bottle and he goes back to sleep most of the time. There are a few times when he still will get up 2-3 times a nite. My sisters daughter is 20 months and even with my sister co-sleeping her daughter still is up 4 times a nite. I belong to a mom's group and I would say just under half of us have children that still get up a nite. I would check temp in room (too hot or too cold), lighting (too bright, not bright enough, my son likes to have some light, everything I've read states to have the room dark). Would a white noise help, it does with my son. Does she have acid reflux, gas, does she like to have her feet bare, allergies or bathroom issues? It's all about trial and error. I finally put a pillow in my son's crib and I'm not sure if that helped, but he isnt' getting up 5 times like before. Some babes won't sleep when they've learned new things, it's all they want too do.

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User - posted on 02/19/2013

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My child does the same. At the end of my rope. Are they possessed by demons?

Karen - posted on 02/24/2011

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There's a lot of great advice on here, Laura's was good, except if it is teething, try peppermint extract instead of Orajel. Our kids were allergic to orajel, so we searched for a more natural method. Make sure it's extract, though, and not oil, a friend burned her child's mouth that way. (she's was fine, but it didn't give the intended effect.) It may take a few times using it, it does sting a little before it numbs the gums. I always put some on my gums so I would know when it stopped stinging, and when it stopped working. The great thing about using natural methods: it's not poisonous, so you don't have to wait a few hours before putting the next dose on!!

Sheena - posted on 01/25/2011

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My daughter used to wake just like that. She was breast fed baby so maybe she needed me a soother to go to sleep. She is now 16mths. My doctor says she might not be getting enough calories during the day. Give her fruit cups after supper or before bed. Get some instant quaker oats make it a little thin strain it and bottle feed it to her with milk of course. Lay down and try to sleep with her when shes asleep leave a piece of your worn clothing on a stuffy. Try playing with her before bed....or rocking her to sleep.

I have her bed right next to mine she just stared sleeping by herself. I throw away the bottles 2weeks ago.

Good Luck!

Rebecca - posted on 01/25/2011

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Renae's advice is bang on in my opinion. It might be time for some tough love and consistent rountines. Sleep begets sleep (the more she gets, the more she'll sleep)! I highly recommend the book "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Dr. Weisbluth. It has been a very useful resource for me and will really help you with this issue. Good luck!

Anjali - posted on 01/21/2011

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my son did the same even till the age of 2 yrs. and I also tried all these things. I was also as frustrated as you because if there is delay in preparing the feed he will throw himself on the ground or hit his head on the bed. I was not keeping well also then as I developed Asthama. And slowly I realized my child is different. he needs more food than any other child. He was chubby healthy and active. So instead of getting angry or frustrated i kept his feeds ready for the night so that even I can get complete sleep at night.

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If you work during the day to maintain a regular nap schedule, it will result in a better night's sleep. Start by Try to focus on the morning nap.

Kathy - posted on 01/19/2011

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I have to agree with all the advice I have seen. Make sure she is getting her daytime naps, being overly tired at bedtime can cause nighttime problems. A good bedtime routine is good to begin. Warm bath, book, rocking, then bed. Try some classical music in her room. All soothing. Fans also worked great with my kids-they loved the white noise. My kids would get a warm cup of water for bed. When they came off the bottle-around your daughter's age-they got sippy cups of water. We take glasses of water to bed so I figured they should be allowed. We also started just soothing them in the night-no talking, no picking up, just touch. Eventually it got to the point, they slept through the night. My kids still use fans and take glasses of water to bed and they a e 15 and 8. Be patient and good luck!

Pascale - posted on 01/19/2011

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Hang in there! You have my sympathies-I have been through this. My daughter would wake up 3-4x per night for the first TWO YEARS! We tried to let her cry it out but she would throw up after 5 minutes (she was crying so hard), it didn't work for us. After trying a few things, my solution was to co-sleep with her so that I could nurse her and fall asleep more easily. Also, I went to bed very soon after she did so I could get all the sleep I could get. It was so hard not getting more than a few hour's sleep at a time, but eventually it changes and you will be more rested. Take care of yourself and get as much rest as you can. My daughter is almost 3 now and generally sleeps through the night, she's normal and healthy.

Macresia - posted on 01/19/2011

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I had a granddaughter that acted like that when she was a baby. She was awake practically the whole night crying, to the point that she sounded as if someone has hurt her physically, that intense crying. I sometimes take her for a ride to town just to calm her. she stops crying once in the car and would fall asleep. but when the car stops she begins to cry again. But eventually she will get tired and fall asleep. Then I tried singing and dancing her to sleep. It takes a while before she calms down, but falls asleep anyway. I think this is what they call a colic baby. This type of babies usually are bored easily hence they cry. But if its any consolation at all, these types of babies are intelligent. GOD bless!

Ruth - posted on 01/19/2011

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Had that problem. Started to feed pablum at bed time. Keeps the tummy full longer than milk . With one child I had to get the pediatrician to give him a children's sedative.. It was either that or go crazy. He wanted me to hold him the entire time he was awake and I had another child to care for and just couldn't hold him all the time.

Nancy - posted on 01/18/2011

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If she is still on the bottle, try giving her a bottle of water when she wakes up. Don't pick her up, just give her the bottle and walk out. Try to keep any social interaction to a minimum. Just tell her to have a drink, go back to sleep and you'll see her in the morning. This worked with my child even though it was many years ago. If she knows all she's going to get is water and not picked up at all, she'll figure out it is not worth waking up for.

Yvette - posted on 01/18/2011

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recently I have started to play sort of classical or soothing music for my 13 month old and it has been working well to put her to sleep. If she wakes up I have a little music player in my daughters room (3 and 13 months) and if she wakes up i put it on soflty, check her diaper of course then gently shush her and maybe caress around her forehead, back etc and try not pivking her up if it's not necessary and she usually goes back to sleep. Does she have a night light, maybe she doesn't like the dark. Or maybe the oposite and if you have one maybe the light is what is waking her. I can't see it be teething if it has been going on for 4 months now. Maybe it's the bed itself she doesn't like. Both my girls didn't like the crib anymore at around a year and prefered the daybed version of it with a full side rail. I just bought the extra one on top of the two little ones that came with the breakdown beds. Don't know why it worked better for them but they seemed to like it and were more comfortable. Most days my 13 month old does have 2 naps about 30-60 mon each (depending on her sister) around 10 and 2 and is in bed by 8-8:30. She will now sleep right though til about 5-5:30 am have a diaper change, abottle and sleep agin until around 7-7:30. The soft music has really helped, also sometimes she like to hear nature sounds.

Joy - posted on 01/18/2011

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I went through the same thing with all four of my kids. I just had to go through it. None of my children slept totally through the night until they were 4. I hope that isn't the case with you and that this is a short lived thing.

Markita - posted on 01/18/2011

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Sounds like what we went through with my son. I think he was 5 before he slept through the night. Sorry I'm no help.

Donna - posted on 01/18/2011

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In addition to other good comments about routine and being consistent with the plan you implement, here are some other thoughts. My pediatrician said do not rock your daughter to sleep or let her fall asleep sucking on a bottle. She should be at least somewhat awake when you put her in her crib so that she has to fall asleep on her own. If possible I would even try not to let her be sucking a binky either, since she will most likely lose it during the night. All of those things are external forces helping her to fall asleep and she needs to learn how to fall asleep on her own, and the easiest time to be doing that is at bedtime.

I had a son who seemed to be waking all night long, and when I put these things into practice it cut the number of times in half. As it turned out, he also had a sleep disorder linked to sleeping too deeply, and many of the times we thought he was waking and crying he was actually really asleep, which would explain why there was no reasoning with him. This also explained why on occasion he would be talking to us and then grind his teeth. This went on until he was 4! We signed up for a program where an alarm would go off when he wet at night, because nighttime wetting at his age was indicating a period of this super deep sleep. When the alarm went off we had to get up with him, make sure he was fully awake and take him to the potty. The first week we were unable to fully wake him no matter what we did. Finally what we were doing worked and he slept through the night, didn't wet the bed, and we finally got to sleep through the night too. 13 months would be way too young to gauge anything by nighttime wetting, but I just wanted to let you know our story just in case it helps anyone reading this.

Kelly - posted on 01/18/2011

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I did it the way Becky was saying. (he crying in his crib and me in the other room crying) And every time he got ear infections it was like we had to go through the process over again. But it did work.

Darla - posted on 01/18/2011

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They say after turning 1 most babies start doing this again. Mine has been waking up at night for milk for months but she has had ear infections. I also have a 3 year old so letting her cry it out is hard for me too especially since they share a room. I'm thinking of sending my 3 year old away to grandmas one weekend then just focusing on my 13 month old sleeping in her own crib and really gonna let her cry it out aslong as I know shes not needing a diaper change, not really hungry, and not hurting. But II'm not trying it until I get my daughters ear tubes put in. Hope that helps. Good luck.

Deanna - posted on 01/18/2011

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it also helps to tell them "you are a good girl/boy, and I love you. but it's time to sleep" telling my daughter that made a huge difference. because sometimes she felt as though she was being bad for waking up even though she couldn't help it.

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I took the advice of the health worker I visited, although I thought at first it was slightly cruel, but suffering from sleep deprevation I thought I would have to give it a try. After 3 nights my son slept throug the night. Whenever he woke up, I walked in his room, put him down and told him it was sleep time, night night. I then had to walk out the room and leave him for 30 min, screaming his head off. After 30 min I would return, telling him the same thing, it's sleep time night night, and tuck him in. He only cried for 15 min and went to sleep. 3 hrs later the whole thing started again, but the crying got less and less hysterical. The next night was almost a repeat of the first night, but the third night there were almost no tears and he only woke once.He got the message and the routine he got himself into was broken. We made sure we started the instructions in the weekend, so at least I could get some sleep later in the day, as I was the one unable to sleep feeling guilty. But it was worth it as he never fell back into the bad routine he had develloped.. Good luck, I wish you courage.

Deanna - posted on 01/18/2011

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she's probably teething. my daughter goes through this every time she teethes. get some of those teething tablets and keep a sippy of water by her bed. did you recently move or put her in her own room? my daughter has to sleep with a night light because she is scared of the dark. some times she wakes up because the cats cry at her window. when you put her to bed try some soothing music, then gradually replace a feeding with rocking and drinking water. good luck with everything! I know how stressful it can be when your baby doesn't sleep. we let our daughter cry it out, but she still wakes up a lot. she'll sleep 3-4 nights, then wake up every night for 3-4 days.

Lori - posted on 01/18/2011

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She might be breaking in more teeth. Try giving her a frozen waffle to get through it. If that tends to help, that might be the cause. Babies tend to teeth until about the age of 3 years old. If this doesn't work for you, post again and we can try figuring something else out. Mommy Mission! :) Goodluck!

Kelly - posted on 01/18/2011

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It has already been said but your child basically doesn't know how to soothe themself to sleep. I went through this and I feel your pain (and your exhaustion).
I don't think you are being inconsistent as someone suggested - I think you are trying different things to see if you can find something that works.
I let my son cry it out finally. It was horrible. To this day I look back and cringe at that period of our life. Letting my son cry it out was our last resort (it did finally work) and I hated every minute of it and still look back and wish I had some other way to have dealt with the situation but didn't. I don't have any magic answers for you.
I would however (has already been said) put the child back to the normal daytime nap routine because being overly exhausted isn't going to help a child sleep better at night. And if at all possible, try getting some rest while little one is napping. Good luck (and a big hug).

Roberta - posted on 01/18/2011

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I think that Renae hit it right on the head. Routine is helpful, and as frustrating as it is, she has to learn to soothe herself to sleep. My first two I didn't have much issue with, but my youngest.... and trying to cry it out in an apartment with two other children under age four, and mere feet between bedrooms... not fun! But we did it. After about two weeks of tough love (and putting my other two to bed in the living room on really bad nights), we won the war.
That same child (now age 7) still has sleeping issues, and we are now trying Melatonin, which is helping immensely, but regarding the suggestion to give it to your tot... my 60 lb child gets knocked silly on 1 mg. That's a relatively low dose, and upon testing it on myself, made me sleepy. I see why they say don't give it to small children! It could certainly be lethal.

Cathy - posted on 01/18/2011

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I feel your pain. My 22mo old is starting to wake up in the night again. It started because of potty training. She gets up to go to the potty. Then she started to teeth agian making matters worse. Now she is just using both as an excuse. Lately I will get up with her the first time and explain to her that this is it. If you have to go potty go now and if your mouth hurts the meds will help and I will not be getting up again. She is older and it still only works 2/3 of the time but we are working our way back up to full nights. One possably helpful tip is not to turn on any lights making sure your child knows it is not day time so little to no talking is best too.

Amber - posted on 01/18/2011

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This could be what is called night terrors, does she act disoriented like you can't tell her enough times you are right there and everything is fine, my son does that, talk to the doctor about her possibly having night terrors and see what he suggests

Teresa - posted on 01/17/2011

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my son is almost 10 months and still wakes up a few times a night most of the time. he'll sleep through the night occaisionally but most nights i'm going back in there atleast 2-3 times. usually i can just pop his soother back in his mouth or pput his blanket back on, but sometimes, he is wanting to be picked up. i cuddle him back to sleep and it usually only takes a few minutes. i cut out the feedings about 2 months ago, but he still wakes up :( he has had reflux issues when he was really little, that we think are cleared up, but he also had some extreme eczema on his arms and woke up itchy (but we've cleared that up now too._) for us, i think we're still getting out of the habit of getting up. even though he's still waking me up, every day seems to get a bit better.
also, whenever i do have to cuddle him back to sleep, i always do the exact same thing: hold him with his head on my left arm, put his soother in, put his blanket over him (he likes to rub it on his face) and turn on his musical aquarium might light. then i rock him back and forth and slight jiggle up and down.
my only problem seems to be when i get his dad to take a turn and try to settle him back down... he does none of this and is up for an hour and then finally i have to get out of bed and deal with caleb while now he is wide awake, and i've been up the whole time anyway since i can hear them on the monitor :S
(sorry, that's a lot of rambling, but it was a long night last night!)


anyway, i think i am trying to tell you, no matter what you do, find something you are comfortable with (personally, i've tried to let him cry it out and i just can't do it, yet) and if you feel good about it, then you will be confident in trying it. make sure you are consistent. i do agree with the other moms, about the feeding though. if she is eating fine during the day, she doesn't need to eat at night. try cutting that out and see if it helps, she's probably waking out of habit.
it didnt solve my son's waking up issues, but atleast getting him back to sleep is faster now than before.

Cathy - posted on 01/17/2011

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Unfortunately, this is a terrible stage that some kids go through. Letting them cry for too long isn't good though. It is possible that teething is part of it although it never bothered by kids. Sleep problems are tough to solve and I never did find a solution but keep in mind 'that this to shall pass'.

Ang - posted on 01/17/2011

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Have you considered acid reflux?? It happens to everyone differently. Just a thought. Good luck ;-)

Nicki - posted on 01/17/2011

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She definitely doesn't need a night feeding, that should have stopped at like 6 months... My daughter is 15 months and has been sleeping through the night since about 4.. I just had the same routine and bed time everynight... If she wakes up do not go back in the room.. that will only repeat the cycle... Crying will not hurt them.. I stopped rocking my daughter to sleep at 9 months, and the crying got shorter and shorter everynight.. by the 5th night she went to sleep right when she hit her bed.. I know it is hard to hear them cry, but it is worth it.. But she is not dumb and knows when she wakes up that she will get fed, which is a horrible habit! So i would stop that ASAP ! Good luck!

Laurie - posted on 01/17/2011

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My pediatrician recommended this as a last resort too, but never said anything about it being banned for 3 years and under.

Jodie - posted on 01/17/2011

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Dummy? Or try controlled crying see the book baby love . You could call and speak with Trasillian
http://www.tresillian.net/contact-us.htm...
If all else fails go with it they are only babies for such a short time so try and have a sleep in the day so your not so tired for the night feeds and try and enjoy those late night moments together when the world is a sleep and its just the two of you.

Alison - posted on 01/17/2011

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You REALLY need to stop feeding her. No healthy child wakes up every 2-3 hours if there is no feeding involved.

Give her water or nothing at all. Send daddy in instead of yourself or don't go to her at all. If it doesn't work after 3 days, keep it going for 5! It sounds like you may have a strong willed child on your hands, which means you need to be a strong willed mom. You need to believe that it is best for your daughter and the rest of your family to sleep through the night.

With my second child, we had to set her up in the living room when we were cutting out night feedings. Try putting a dehumidifier or an air purifier (borrow one from a friend if you don't have something) in your son's room to block out the noise.

Rachel - posted on 01/17/2011

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I am truly sorry that you are going through this. I had quite the time with my son. I'll tell you what our Dr. told us (he has 25+ years of experience, and his dad was a ped, too), and it wasn't easy but it worked. (See if you can send your oldest to a relative or friends just to sleep. This might take a few nights). Like others have said, start a routine and stick with it. Make sure she isn't exposed to t.v. for a least half an hour before bedtime. If you suspect teething, give her Tylenol and rub teething gel on her gums. Put her down. When she gets up, let her cry for 15 minutes. Go check on her (without talking or turning on lights). Just make sure she hasn't pooped or gotten stuck somewhere. Go back to bed. As nerve-wracking as it can be, let her cry it out. Don't feed her unless you want to be feeding her at that time every night. Make sure she has a "woobie" or "lovie" she can snuggle with. After about 3 nights, she should start to take the hint. It wasn't a fun experience, but my son sleeps like a champ, and he learned to console/amuse himself when he does wake up in the night. Both of my kids have been sleeping through the night since they were about 2 months old because we followed this. This is not going to traumatize your child. They'll be fine, and so will everyone else once you start getting some decent sleep! Good luck! Remember...whatever you choose to do--stick with that. Don't skip around or she won't learn.

Elle - posted on 01/17/2011

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It is possible that your child has a sensory disorder (SID). common in infants- usally means that they are hyper sensitive and do not sleep well and cannot get them selves back to sleep. To find out, take your child to an Occupation Therapist who specializes in infant Sensory integration disorder and treatment, for an evaluation. It's usally a fairly easy fix, maybe 6 weeks of O.T. and all will be well. If that is not it, there is a medicine called Panomeem (not sure of the spelling) that hellps with gastro intestinal issues, dr.s are reluctant to give it so try the O.T. first.

Stephanie - posted on 01/17/2011

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I agree with pp, routine is everything! We started our little girl out on a routine basically from day one. Bottle, Bath (most nights), brush teeth/gums, baby massage, pjs, read 2 bed time stories, she turns off her light and turns her night light on, sing 2-3 songs to her and then lay her down in her crib.

It seems to work really well for her, the only time she has woke up at night has been when she is teething and when she was short on sleep during the day (that was the worst). Sleep deprivation can wreak havoc on a baby/toddler.

Good luck and be strong!

Leslie - posted on 01/17/2011

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I am in the same boat, my son was sleeping thru the nite until he went through a growth spurt at 6 months and hasn't slept all nite since. We have tried letting him cry it out but to no avail after listening to him cry for hours at a time and no sleep for mommy and daddy.

MomsGoodLife - posted on 01/13/2011

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Have you tried investigating if shes got a tummy ache? Sometimes MILK intolerance can do that. I suggest take her to an ALLERGIST to rule out any ALLERGIES too.

Kathie - posted on 01/13/2011

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Kori, have you (or the doctor) considered the possibility of it being night terrors?? I hope she (and ALL of you) can get full nights of sleep SOON.

Kori - posted on 01/13/2011

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Hey, I dont really have any advice. Just wanted you to know you are not alone. For us, it started at 14 months and its still aBIG problem at 21 months. We have tried everything. My daughter puts herself to sleep every night. Shejust wakes and screams for hours. Grrr.....its been 7 months now. Im a zombie, with 2 other children as well.
Good luck to you.

Kori

Jade - posted on 01/13/2011

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my 2 yr old went through same stage but would climb out of bed and holler at top of the stairs n wake up my 4 yr old making us all grumpy, i tried ignoring him, putting him bk into bed, cuddling, ect in the end i put him in the 4yr olds room so he had a buddy, worked almost instantly occasionly he wakes but i tell him to go bk to sleep, just got to get my 10mnth old used to night now he wakes every 2hrs to breastfeed n wil not take a bottle gna try putting him in his own room for starters

Karen - posted on 01/13/2011

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have you tried a bath with the johnsons bedtime bubble bath and a massage before puting her to bed that helped with my son as he has ADHD form karen dodd

Julia - posted on 01/12/2011

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This too shall pass! Really. My daughter was like this - woke up a couple times a night til she was 18 months, then still not consistent until she was about 2.5 years. I stopped nursing/feeding her during the night at 8 months, but she still needed help back to sleep when she awoke. Try giving her water or milk from a sippy - don't breast or bottle feed her. Try using a pacifier if you're not already! She may just need that sucking to soothe herself and it may not be food related at all. Also, enlist your husband if he is willing. If it's you she wants, have him go instead. After a couple nights of not getting you, she may stop asking.

I think temperature is a big reason they awake. Most kids sleep warm, yet we bundle them up for bed and they get too hot. Her cheeks should be cool to the touch and she should look comfortable. If her cheeks are warm/hot and stretched out, she's likely too warm. If she's cold to the touch and curled up, she's too cold. Use a sleeper or sleep sack instead of a blanket that she can kick off. The room should be cool, under 68 degrees. Use some white noise - we use a cool mist humidifier that has a comforting hum to it. I find the "wave" types that come and go are distracting - get something consistent like a fan. As another said, get her back to napping twice a day. The saying "sleep begets sleep" is true! My daughter is 5 and still naps most every day. For starting out rough, she's a GREAT sleeper now, and super happy because she's well rested. Lastly, if nothing works, accept that's the stage she's in and enjoy the extra cuddle time with her. Before you know it, she will outgrow it, and you'll miss that special bonding time. Good luck!

Fiona - posted on 01/12/2011

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Do whatever works for you so your family can catch up on some rest. Even if you can leave her somewher while you sleep during the day. I had a non sleeper as well and when I caught up on some sleep I was able to cope with the other two kids and not feel so awful. And I was also able to think of the problem from differnt angles rather than round in circles
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Kathie - posted on 01/12/2011

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It'll be harder on you (and your son), but tough it out! This is how we did it (and I BAWLED, knowing I can't, shouldn't, won't, DIDN'T go to her), but both of our girls slept through the night at 6 weeks and now, at 17 years and 11 years, you could have a party in their rooms at night and they'd never know it - they are the BEST sleepers!



A few (or more!) days' lost/broken sleep will DEFINITELY be worth her sleeping through the night! Do NOT go in there!!! But, have (at least) 2 blankets she can sleep with (like receiving blankets). You sleep with one and she sleeps with the other. The next night switch them - your "scent" is on it and it can help soothe her to think you're closer than you are. I was a nanny for 11 years, a stay-at-home mom for another 11, and since have worked with children in different capacities (PreK teacher, daycare).



Renae K says it best! She NEEDS to learn how to fall asleep/fall BACK asleep on her own, and you NEED a bedtime routine. Hang in there...I'll be thinking of you.

Anna - posted on 01/12/2011

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Hi. My daughter is 3 1/2. She wakes ups up 2-3 times a night. She use to stay awake for a couple of hours each time. For some reason she doesn't do that anymore. But if she has a sleep in the day, even just a 5 minute nap it takes us 2 hours to get her to sleep at night!!! Feb last year she was daignoised as being austistic... so it all fits into place now, a lot of autistic kids don't have enough melatonin in their body which is the natural hormone that keeps you asleep or sends you to sleep. She has been prescribe some melatonin pills, they put her to sleep faster, but she still wakes up. Knowing what I am dealing with now makes it a bit easier to handle. I'm NOT saying your daughter is Autistic... I'm just giving you my story. Have you tried a sleep clinic at your hospital?

Melissa - posted on 01/12/2011

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What renae said sounds pretty god. I wish I knew how to help but my kids are great sleepers. I feel for you I hope it gets better soon

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