Maddison - posted on 06/09/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
In need of advice how to handle a worthless baby daddy , found out I'm expecting in early Feb 2015 the father of my baby is 16 years older professional attorney with two children from previous marriage , he has begged me not to tell anyone about the pregnancy & have an abortion I clearly have refused now he is leaning for me to leave town & move 7 hrs away & go thru with a closed adoption I also think that would be a terrible experience for myself & child I told him I would look into an open adoption but I can't go nine months in a strange town with no family & friends & give my baby to a random family & never see them again solely for him , In fact the more he pressures me to sweep my child away like they are nothing the more my mother instincts kick in & make me want to tell his sorry ass where to go! How can I explain to my baby if I do put them up for an open adoption your father was 36 with two kids but didn't want to be your dad ? That's why I gave you up, seriously makes me feel so small. & if I do choose to keep the baby I worry the father will never step up & help raise the baby & they will be abandon by him while he raises two other children just the idea makes me furious. I'm giving up college for a year & my body to give my child life & I feel like I can't do anything remotely right I will always put my child before their father. Any advice or experience for how to handle this a**hole would be greatly appreciated ! Thank you Moms!