Help! Baby daddy problems!

Danielle - posted on 07/25/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I'm currently pregnant and I'm about to have my son on July 31st via a c section (due to complications). My ex and I have been broken up for about 4 months now and we were together for 2 years. We got into an argument about him partying so much and then he left and didn't come back. I've been so heartbroken and have cried myself to sleep for most of these few months. He is currently living with a girl that he has been seeing, and he moved in with her in less than 2 weeks after leaving me. This hurts so much but I know there's nothing I can do about it.

So during the past few months I keep trying to talk to him about things, to see if we can work things out. I've only seen him 2 times and both times we talked a little and got along but all he talked about was how much he was partying and who he had hooked up with. Talk about a knife to the chest. Then he randomly decides to tell me he misses me which makes me burst into tears because I don't want to be without him anymore, but every other time I've tried to make plans with him he either blows me off and I don't hear from him for days or weeks, or he comes up with excuse after excuse.

I shouldn't want to be back with him because he's not a good person, doesn't work, and barely ever helped me out with anything. But I miss him and his 6 year old daughter like crazy still and I don't know why. Everytime I have asked him for help with moving his stuff out or anything he never helped and I had to find ways to do it on my own.

So not only am I having problems with me still wishing we could be together, but I'm having problems with him about our son. He wants to take him the first or the second week of him being born for half the time and I dont feel comfortable with that. I plan on breast feeding, I dont trust him to take him because of multiple reasons, and I dont want his gf or what ever she is to be playing mom to my new baby. He's been threatening me that he will go to the court and take him from me and I'm so scared. I dont know how to go about this situation and what I can do to protect my son.


Jodi - posted on 07/25/2013




If you are breastfeeding, it is highly unlikely a court will give him half time, so he can take you to court all he wants, he won't get it. He will, however, be allowed to have some time with his child for small amounts at a time, with this increasing as the child gets older.

" I dont know how to go about this situation and what I can do to protect my son."

This is not about protecting your son. Sorry, but it's not. It's about you being upset with him. Your son has a RIGHT to a relationship with his father. You have an obligation to foster that. Nothing you have said indicates that he shouldn't have a relationship with HIS son (that's right, he isn't just YOURS).

I would suggest you contact a lawyer and get a child custody order in place. But remember, a father has rights, as does the child, so you need to come to terms with that.

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