HELP! Birthday party at a pizza place :)

Jen - posted on 01/30/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My stepdaughter is in first grade and turning seven this month. Our kids usually want to have birthday parties at home (sleepovers, etc...) so they can invite as many friends as they want, but she wants to have hers at Peter Piper Pizza or Chuck E Cheeses and invite a few school friends, our close friends children and family. We have a budget and decided that she can have around 20 children for the same cost as a party at home. My concern is that a friend recently had a party for her daughter at Peter Piper and multiple parents with siblings stayed at the party and instead of sitting at their own tables, stood around the party table and were feeding the pizzas to siblings while the other children were eating. To avoid an uncomfortable situation, my friend just purchased extra food and soda and ended up going about $60 over budget. I have talked to other friends and apparently this is pretty common, so it leads me to my question: Is it rude to include on the invitation that parents/siblings are welcome to stay, but we will only be providing food and drinks for children invited to the party? I'm sure we will have plenty of cake to share and I always make extra goody bags and when we have parties at home, everyone is welcome, but we really are on a budget that I want to stick to, so can anyone help with proper etiquette in this situation? I know I'm jumping the gun because it may not happen, but I really want to avoid sounding rude or be placed in an awkward situation. Any advice will be greatly appreciated!! THANK YOU! : )

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Jen - posted on 02/07/2012

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So, just an update for anyone that might read this...when I reserved the party online, they have e-invitations that you can post addresses to and send out. There is a section that asks who you are providing food for and you can select that food will be provided for the children invited and they include that on the invitation. :)

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It's not rude, just find a tactful way to word it. You are footing the bill for this party and it's your right to stipulate who gets to eat the food at a "catered for" party. I've seen this happen often and quite frankly I think it's rude for people to assume that siblings are entitled to join the party if their names were not on the invitation. Good luck with it.

Caitlin - posted on 01/30/2012

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Perhaps a better way to put it is that any extra people eating will have to pay for their own plates and to advise you how many people will be extra so that you can inform the party hall.. That might be the better way to do it.

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Jen - posted on 01/30/2012

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I know, I sound awful. I really don't mean to, I'm just sort of amazed that happened to my friend. I usually just drop my kids off at parties like this because I know the hosts pay per child. Thank you for the advice. That is a much nicer way to put it. : )

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