Help can I have some advice bout my kids?

Lisa - posted on 07/21/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Where did I go wrong? My 2 kids constantly ignore every word I say to the point where they would get hurt rather than listen to me, I expect a certain level of naughtiness due to there ages 2&4 but it's beyond a joke. I've always made sure there polite and always use there manners which they do but that's where it stops, my eldest is always right and has to have her way wen I put a stop to whatever it is she's doin it's a full on screaming session for a hour before she calms down and then she'll still try and do it again it's a endless cycle that I'm desperately trying to break but just seem to keep failing! My ill boy is even worse from the second he wakes he hyper all day long constantly bouncing around till bedtime and no he has no juice or sweets to set him off it's the same day in day out, he climbs absolutely everything jumps off things far to high and just laffs and does it agen I'm literally counting the days till he breaks a arm or leg! To make things worse wen he wakes in the morn if hr cries the neighbours have started banging on the walls, we can't keep him in his room at bedtime he just climbs out and we spoke to a doctor about his behaviour coz he can be violent, it's got to the point they only listen to me if I really scream at them and that doesn't always work I'm exhausted and don't no Wat to do I love em to pieces but this can't go on pls help? X :(

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Lisa - posted on 07/21/2012

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I used to the bedroom thing with her but to be honest It slipped because my ill boy is such hard work it was a case of I was trying to deal with the worst behaviour from my boy first which ment her behaviour slipped bk , I'll start doing it again tho so thanks for the reminder on that one, as for my ill boy I can't physically keep him anywhere coz he climbs anything he has no fear at all he has 2 stair gates on his bedroom door one on top the other ( don't worry there secure lol ) ans he still somehow manages to get out! If I put either kids in there room to calm down or just get it out there systems my neighbours have starting banging on the walls! Regardless of time of day which inst helping in fact it's making me feel like the worst parent! I am little worried ad ADHD runs in the boys in my family my 4yr old nephew has just been diagnosed and I'm hoping that my ill boy hasn't ended up with the same as parts of his behaviour is very simerler

Louise - posted on 07/21/2012

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Make their rooms secure. Do not shout whisper. Cal there names and then whisper they will stop to try and here you. Warn them that they must stop or go to their rooms and if they don't stop pick up your 4 year old and put her in her room and close the door. She is safe in their nothing can harm her. Then get down to your 2 year olds eye level and tell him no firmly this is not safe. If you don't stop you will go to a play pen. (Get one big enough to hold him and a few toys). Then go and talk to your daughter, again get down to her eye level and tell her firmly what she has done wrong and that from now on, if she ignores you she will end up in her room every time, it is up to her. If she is screaming leave her in her room to calm down you do not need to listen or witness that. She will stop quicker if she has no audience.

Always warn the children that this will happen before doing it. Stick to the same disciplin, if they don't listen off they go to room and pen. Talk to them on what they did wrong and how you would like them to behave always end the chat with a hug. You could do this 15 times a day to start with but they will learn if mum says stop that you mean business. Don't shout some kids see this as a game to wind mum up so much she losses control. Keep calm just remove them from the situation.

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