Marina - posted on 04/17/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )
I really don't know if this is a post or a question. I'm new to this site, I need all the help interaction with mothers like me. I'm the stepmom of two beautiful girls aged 8 and 12. I love them and treat them as my own, but we have something cooler. I get to be their new friend.
I'm very stressed and worried about these kids. Their mother has totally polluted their lil heads. The mother is a diagnosed bipolar disorder. But that's not the only problems. She is in a relationship with a man who has been physical with her. These are her words on the stand. She has even admitted to the judge that she has left the kids alone on average of three times a month. This was when the 12yrs old was 11 and younger. Also the bipolar mothers own sister wrote and affidavit stating that she has the girls 2 nights a week. The same situation with my husbands mother. She submitted an affidavit stating the same. Does that not prove she only has the children 50% of the time?the mother of the children also got a doctors note stating that yes she is bipolar and was prescribed pills. He says she if "fine"
We requested a bilateral assessment to be done on the mother and she countered that the children under go a wants and needs assessment.
These girls never had a stable structured life with their mother. They where always with someone else besides her. No rules. She never encouraged them to study or get to school on time. That's another thing she also admitted to get the kids to school late on an average of three times a week. The kids where also never in any after school programs.
The kids with us has a very structured schedule. They are both in soccer and baseball. The eldest is now on honor roll. And they haven't been late for school once in the last three and a half months they've been with us.
To me this is a closed book case. The children are much better of with us.
However the kids went to the wants and needs assessment and told the psychiatrist they'd prefer to live with their mom. So they can watch movies and not have as many rules.
This scares me. My husbands lawyer said that it should lean in our favor after the wants and needs assessment takes places. How can that be when the reason of the wants and needs assessment is for the children to voice what they want. And they don't want to live with us...........???
Please help shed some light on this for me people. I'm scared for the health and safety of these two beautiful lil girls.