Tammie - posted on 05/23/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been married for 2 years, been together for 3 and a half. I have a 6 year old daughter from previous relationship, he has a 12 year old son from previous relationship. The problem is his son is rude and mean to my daughter. He is constantly telling on her for small things, gets angry if she sets near him, he tells her not to make noise if he is watching tv or playing a game. He has told his mother that he doesn't like my daughter. He told my husband about a year ago that he wanted it to just be them two again., he is at our house every other weekend and two evenings a week. it is obvious that he doesn't like my daughter, and it is difficult for me to be nice to him or to have a conversation with him. He told my husband(which made my husband cry) that he doesn't want to come to our house because of my daughter. it is making it so difficult for me to like him. My daughter keeps trying to be his friend, will ask him to play games with her, always makes sure she hugs him bye, which he does because his dad makes him.
This causes arguments between my husband and I. he is afraid I may end up leaving him. His son(before I came in to the picture) was a coddled, spoiled child, getting everything he wanted and had everything done for him, he said when they went somewhere, what they ate and so on.
it is clear that he is jealous that my daughter and I have his dad's time and attention and affection though my husband still shows him love as well, he is not neglected.
I just don't know what to do anymore. Monday I am spending the day at my mother's with my daughter because I don't want her subjected to him while he is at our house.
anyone else ever face anything like this? One of things that bother me most is that my daughter keeps trying...it's like she doesn't understand that he doesn't like her. she says that "he is being mean".