Help...getting frustrated with introduction of solid foods.

Erin - posted on 09/06/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I have 5 1/2 month old twins. One boy, one girl...so different, I love it! Here is the issue. Both have reflux, which makes tummy time on the blanket a trail of messiness.:) I have introduced my son to solid foods and he took to it like he had been eating forever. He eats 3 meals a day and 2 bottles now. Best of all his reflux has greatly diminished.



My daughter, seems to have no interest. She seems to want the food (very thin for her), but proceeds to put her thumb in her mouth after each bite....if I pull it out, she simply turns the other way and sticks the other thumb in. I presume to suck the food down. She leans forward to the spoon but does not open her mouth. Xander watches me eat everything, while she stares at her bib:) Are there any ideas you guys have? Is it just too early? And if it is, should I keep trying every day or give her a break? I feel awful after a feeding (like I am not doing something right), and she is getting no sustenance from the effort. She is up to 6 - 6 ounce bottles a day with 5 tsp of cereal in each for her reflux. Hungry every 2-2 1/2 hours. My hope is solids will help her reflux as they did with my son and that she will be sated longer. Any advice or ideas are welcome. Thanks!



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Belinda - posted on 09/06/2011

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I think that you have hit on the right attitude Erin, It really doesn't matter that she is not taking solids at this point. Formula for both of them is the priority. At this age they are just experimenting and learning about food and the texture of food and what to do with it. I remember getting frustrated with myself because my daughter didn't eat much solid food until somewhere around her first birthday .II finally decided to just relax with it and she is a champion eater today. I look back at myself and wonder why I put so much stress onto myself for pretty much no reason.
Good Luck!

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My daughter never ate solids until she started with finger food. I don't know if it was the flavor or the texture but I tried every single day, hoping that day would be different, but she never did. She just stuck to six 8 oz bottles a day until she was ready for real food. She's two now and eats anything I put in front of her and is healthy as an ox. I know it's not any help, but I just wanted to let you know that if she doesn't take to baby food, you're not alone. :)

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Claire - posted on 09/09/2011

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We have these mesh food/teether things with handles that I think are made by Munchkin (don't quote me on that one!) You open it up and put the food in -- melon works really well -- the child can chew on it and basically gum down the food to a puree. It can help satisfy the chewing and sucking without choking or gagging.

Erin - posted on 09/08/2011

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I actually give her solids first...when she is due for a bottle, I start with the solids and then follow with the bottle (kept out of sight during the effort). At this point my daycare is working with her once a day and they think she is getting better. Just a couple of tsp a day or 1 T but if she gets consistent with that I will increase it slowly until it lessens her bottle and it goes away. Then I will start working on another mealtime. She does like reaching out for the bowl and spoon and pulls the spoon into her mouth feverishly. At this point she would gag herself if I left it to her. And finally, yes, I believe she is teething a bit as everything, from her hands to toys are in her mouth constantly. Luckily, she has not been fussy with it, but I feel a texture difference in her gums at the bottom, so this may be an issue simultaneously. Working through it all:) Thanks!

Claire - posted on 09/07/2011

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It must be tiring with a good eater and a good "bottler", for lack of better term. Our son had GERD, so I know how long it can take to outgrow it. How long do you wait after the bottle before you feed her solids? Her tummy might not be empty enough and she's refusing because she's full. Maybe try giving her a small water bottle instead of formula and let her tell you when she's hungry. She may also either want to feed herself with the spoon or simply not like the food you're offering.
Have you checked her gums for teeth?

Erin - posted on 09/06/2011

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I know....in actuality, he takes 5 tsp cereal with a fruit every morning. The cereal is made with some of a 4 ounce formula bottle I make. He drinks the rest (not mixed with the rice cereal) while I hold him after he finishes the cereal and fruit. Then he takes a bottle mid morning, then a 1/2 fruit and 1/2 veggie (like sweet potato and apple sauce) around 1:30 followed by 4 ounces water mixed with 1 ounce apple juice, then a bottle around 4:30, then 2 veggies and 1/2 a fruit at dinner (he is a machine:)). If it is before 8PM when he eats solids, I give him a top-off bottle of 4.5 ounces at 9:30. So he is getting more formula than just the 2 bottles due to timing coming out of daycare.



I think Zoey will come to it in her own time, I need to just relax. It is not my failure when she doesn't take food. I need to tell my goal-oriented self to chill out a bit:) Thanks!

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My twins started solids at 3.5 months and never looked back. Their little brother, on the other hand, took his first bite at 6 months, but his interest was so rare and random that he wasn't eating them on a daily basis til around a year.

If your son is really only having 2 bottles a day... that doesn't sound like enough cuz formula or breastmilk is supposed to be the main part of their diet til a year. 3 meals/day is a LOT at that age.

Erin - posted on 09/06/2011

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Thank you both. It helped to hear different perspectives. I realize she will come to it in her own time, but the daily hoping it will get better is so disheartening at times. Thank you again.

Sheila - posted on 09/06/2011

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There are always signs of when babies are ready for solid foods and each baby is different, even twins. Both my children started solids at 4 months old. It was a challenge to get them to keep it in their mouth, but they just need to learn how to "chew" it and swallow since it's a very different texture than there formula. I would just keep at it with your daughter and soon she will catch on. My son is 4 months and he puts his hands in his mouth constantly too, but he is teething. Perhaps your daughter is as well and she is soothing the pain in her gums by chomping on her fingers. She will come around in her own time. Just keep up the solids, even if she only eats a half jar a day.

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