HELP HELP HELP with my teenage son!!! Girlfriends mom abusive

L R - posted on 11/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My son is in a relationship with a beautiful little girl who he adores. Big problem......her mom! Her mom is an abusive mom that controls every part of her life. If she gets under a 95% on anything, her mom calls the school (which she is in high school) and will want her to sit down with the teachers. This is only one little part of this.... if her mom is mad at her ex, grandparents, or my son, she uses her daughter as a pawn! This is a sweet girl who is pure as well as my son. She loves our family (which only mades it even worse). She was ill for a couple of months and out of school..... little suspicious, don't you think? her mom would not let anyone near her or talk to her. My son took and dropped off her homework every day (without even a thanks!). He truly has fallen for this girl who he has been with for 2 years. I want so badly to break this off completely because her mom yells at my son, changes their plans at the last minute, and even hangs up on him. Trust me, this is the way it is. Even the teachers are aware of her mom. Her ex doesn't make wave because he said it would make it harder on his daughter. I have sat by wanting this to end since June. All he does is cry every night! This girl is in all his advanced classes and cannot change schedules. He is chosen for everything over Juniors and Seniors! I don't want to change schools. I also didn't want to block numbers because this could make his sadness worse. Please I NEED HELP!!!!!

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L R - posted on 11/06/2012

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Thank you Michelle. There is so much that she has done that I could write a book! Yes, she is controlling without a doubt. However, regarding me stating she is abusive is mental and emotional. She will throw things out the window that is her daughters. From the time the little girl gets home until she goes to bed, she will call her names, swear at her, and states that if she cries, she will feel better. Her mother's parents even tried to have her stay with her but it would be in a different school and she doesn't want to give up the school. She will tell her daughter that she can only eat a salad but yet, she eats whatever she wants. Her child is 100 lbs, 5'4 and her mom is 5'1 and weights approximately 240 lbs! Her own daughter said that her mom is living through her. Her mom picks out her clothes and even told her daughter that she was not allowed to pick out her prom dress that she is going shopping and picking it out. Again, she only gets joy when she finally breaks down the little girl and makes her cry.

Michelle1544 - posted on 11/06/2012

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I think you should let your son decide if he breaks off the relationship or not. Also although she sounds a bit controlling , I don't see where she's actually abusive.

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