Help! How can I get her to sleep through the Night?

Jessica - posted on 01/03/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter turned 2 this past Thursday and it's a real treat if she sleeps through the night. We have tried every nap combo during the day (including no nap which makes it worse.). We try as hard as we can to keep a "routine" but my husband and I work opposite shifts and we also have 2 other kids in the house (14 & 11), getting them to quiet down at 7, 8, even 9 at night is world ending. So it's really hard to get on a solid schedule. Not to mention our lil' peanut is a night owl anyway. She likes to be up until 10, 11 even midnight sometimes, and trying to get her to settle down before she's ready is... well she's 2 you know. lol Our last resort is turn her crib into a bed, (which it's meant to be.. ) and seeing if not sleeping behind bars will help her A: sleep in her own room (most of the time she sleeps on her lil' couch in the living room or w/me on the couch. I rarely sleep in our be w/her. Don't want to imagine what that habit would like to break if we can't break this one! lol ) and B: sleep through the night. ANY and I mean ANY other helpful hints would be nice. I realize that all kids are different and some just don't need as much sleep as others. However, she's so busy all day long that I'm exhausted and then have to work until 11/12 at night, sleep for 2 maybe 3 hours and then get her settled back down and sleep uncomfortably the rest of night. So I'm not getting great sleep. OH what a vicious cycle. lol Again and I welcome any and all advice. Thank you for listening to me rant. I really didn't intend to go on this long. But I figured a lil' background might help.

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Gwen - posted on 01/04/2011

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First of all, get her off the couch and in her own room. It will take lots of time and patience, but bringing her out in front of the TV is not helping. If you want her to be in bed before 10,11,12 at night you are going to have to start earlier and stick to your guns. My daughter doesn't always fall asleep right away, but she knows she's not allowed to get out of bed. Most kids can sleep through a tornado, so I don't think it's essential that the other 2 be silent. You just need to decide you are going to set a schedule and stick to it. Yes, there will be battles and yes, she will push your buttons, but if you want things to change you'll just have to deal w/ that for awhile. Believe me, even with a routine, bedtime is not always fun at my house with my 2 year old! It just goes with the territory. Be the boss and take charge.



P.S. If she isn't climbing out of the crib, I'd keep her in there until you get a consistent routine established and can keep her in her room.

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Julie - posted on 06/26/2011

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Dear Jessica your not rantingthe whole idea is so that mums and Dads if they wish can get advice from other mums I have put some idea's on on one of the other conversation. between the age of 0-5 a child does its most learning so it stands to reason their brain is at its most active their are several things you can try however the best are as follows

remove all stimulation down stairs turn the main lights of and put little lamps on make their night time drinks your 14 and 11 year old can become part of the plan ask them their help if they want to watch their tvs put headsets on so the house is quiet this will help them later or even when they start babysitting especialley the 14 regardless whether a male or female child. ask the older child to read a story while you make the warm drinks spend 1 hour quiet time.... you will find that with nothing to stimulate they will fall asleep easier your not asking the older ones to go to sleep at that age your asking them for their help you will make the older ones feel part of the family you will be surprised you may find some days the older ones decide to go to sleep as well as no stimulation means boredom to them lol. If they won't cooperate then its touch love time a ban on all bedroom tv's computers stereo's after 6pm you will find their more than willing to help.
if you want to have a little rant feel free you can find me on my Wiccan and pagan group I will add you to my circle. as an x nurse and foster mum and Grandma I'm used to rants that a very healthy thing to do it help reduce the stress level as long as your not offending someone then feel free.

Regards Julie aka Amethyst

Heather - posted on 01/06/2011

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I have an almost 4 and an almost 2 year old. Routine helps - but it doesn't have to be as complicated - or secluded and quiet as you may think! Snack, potty, teeth, hugs and kisses and then the SAME dvd or bedtime story on the tv, smart phone or from a book or your own memory sets it all up. When we are at gramma's they sleep on matts in the livingroom while I get the couch. If light is a problem use a pop up tent. A white noise machine could help the light sleeper stay undisturbed.

Gwen - posted on 01/06/2011

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Could you switch the kids' rooms around so no one has to walk through hers?

Jessica - posted on 01/05/2011

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I agree w/you there.. and if I were home every night to "stick" to it... I would. Problem is I'm not..I've tried to explain to my hubby, but it doesn't always work for him.. just like me... the other problem is all 3 rooms for the kids are upstairs.. My oldest has to go through her room to get downstairs.. (hence the quiet) some nights she could be snoring away.. and a creak from my other daughter will wake her ... in my opinion it's not fair for them to lose sleep because she gets up. ... That's the major problem. Apparently she's got her mom's genes and sleeps soundly .. but lightly. Thank you for you advice and you response... really I appreciate it! I'm running out of options .. lol

Renae - posted on 01/04/2011

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Is she able to fall asleep on her own without you with her when she sleeps on her little couch? Or is she completely dependant on you to go to sleep? Also, did I read it correctly that once she does finally go to sleep she usually only wakes once during the night? I can help you, but just needing a tad more info.

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