Terese - posted on 07/07/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )
My husband works a lot and it is very rare that we get to spend time together. Lately, when he does have time off, he sits around and complains about how tired he is. He growls at everything and won't snap out of it. He is 29 going on 80. He doesn't help around the house, can't manage to keep his phone on him (I have anxiety and need him to do so re: baby stuff) and when I wait up for him to get home from work (1130) he won't come to bed. Needless to say, we are barely communicating and at this point he comes off so dense that I am starting to resent him. He stays up until 2 AM watching videos on the iPad or spending time in the garage with friends chatting (when all I want / need is to be spending that time with him) and then he gets angry when the baby wakes up in the morning because he didn't get enough sleep-- but it is his fault. I work in the mornings so he has to take on this responsibility. This past week was the last straw and I really need some advice before I just walk away. My cousin passed away a few months ago (more like a brother) and I was unable to attend the funeral. I have been grieving and it has been hard for my family. They all decided to come out my way this summer for a family reunion and for a small memorial to honor my cousin. My husband spent 1 day with us and it was the best time I have had with him in a long time. Then I came to find out the whole time he was there he was texting his brother about how he didn't want to be there--complaining and moaning. He said he had fun in the long run but it broke my heart. He has never met most of my family and this was extremely important to me. Then, the next day, he got off work early, I just assumed he would make the effort to be with me and my family for the last day they were here. He bailed. He was too tired and didn't see the problem. I'm just so hurt and disappointed. I feel like I can't rely on him emotionally anymore. Please, any advice would be appreciated.