Doris - posted on 07/23/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I've read the comments regarding getting teens to be responsible and pay for different things like cars, phones etc..and I've tried to impose rules requiring a good balance between responsibility and privledge but my lazy 17 yr old son only wants things his way. I've been battling with him for months about getting a job and pulling his own weight around the house. He just got a 29 ACT score so he's very smart but not acting like it. I think he would rather play in his band than go to college. He will not do chores around the house, except to do his own laundry. He sits around playing X-box and drums. I got him a job at the company I work for and he quit. He's repeatedly used my credit card for game points and annual renewal on the xbox without my permission. This past weekend I was so totally fed up that I took the car away, and cancelled the xbox subscription. He got mad of course, called me horrible names and spent the weekend at a girls house. She says her parents don't care if he sleeps in the same bed with her (she's 19 yrs.old) Her best friend and the best friend's boyfriend also live there.
It seems that the more rules I impose on my son the more I push him away. I don't know what to do anymore. If I give in he doesn't learn anything. any advice