HELP I'm a new clueless mom & need potty training tips from other mommies!

Yolanda - posted on 04/08/2013 ( 31 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 year old son who is very smart. He counts, know's his abc's & comprehends my questions. When it comes to using the potty, he fights me with his all! I have tried giving him stickers if he goes, I've tried candy cherrios in the toilet, but he just fights me. He will sit on the toilet for a few seconds then the fight begins. I feel clueless to what I'm doing. He tells me "no pee pee in toilet. I pee pee diaper mama". Any advice is truly welcomed & appreciated!

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Sally - posted on 04/12/2013

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The fastest, easiest way to potty train a child is to wait until they are ready. If he's fighting it, he's not ready. Fighting him is only going to make it take longer and stress out both of you. Little kids are all about control and eating and excreting are the only things they do that you have absolutely no real control over. A strong willed child will make themselves sick (sometimes to the point of permanent damage) to make their point. As much as we all hate diapers, it's really not worth it to get into this with him. If you wait until he wants to do it, it'll happen quickly with little to no effort on your part.
Good luck

Ndey - posted on 04/12/2013

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Keep trying it takes longer with boys I struggle with my son too but you don't give up it will get easier eventually

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/12/2013

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Good luck Yolanda!

Believe it or not, this will become an anecdote a few years down the road, when you're reading along and see a similar post...you'll be like "OH!!! Been there!"

Hang in there, honey, and remember to enjoy these years. My "babies" are 15 & 18, and sometimes...I want them to be 2& 5 again...

Melynda - posted on 04/12/2013

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I agree w everyone who said to wait to potty train him. It sounds like he's just not ready yet. He will be soon enough and when he is do the potty chart w stickers a prizes. It's just a headache for u if he's not willing. Let it go for now and try agin later. My boys didnt get fully trained till 3. And i still deal with a bed time wetter. Hang in there mommy he will want to use the potty soon enough.

Rita - posted on 04/12/2013

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You can also get him a sterdy step stool and get him to use a regular toilet just like daddy, mine loved to stand up and pee. It does get messy sometimes but worth it.

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Faye - posted on 04/16/2013

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When you start to try again, set a timer at 15 minutes intervals. It acts as an independent reminder (and it is not you being the NAG). Once he has mastered the 15 minutes interval, then move it to 20 or 30 minutes. I suggest 2 days mastery at whichever interval you are working on.

When I used this method on my youngest, I was ready to move it to the 45 minute interval when he told me "don't redo that mommy, I got this." I had to laugh but realized that at about 35 minutes he went to the potty by himself. Like most kids, mine was so busy playing, he ignored the signs that told him he needed to potty so accidents were happening.

Another thing to try would be to have him sit on the toilet backwards. He may have a fear of falling in and that could be the reason for his refusing.

Candice - posted on 04/16/2013

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I'm surprised no one has suggested this idea yet. My oldest was very talkative and smart at a young age, too. We went swimming at a lake two months before he turned two and didn't use a swim diaper with him,just a swimsuit. He suddenly started dancing around and saying he had to go potty. That was his first time peeing on a tree. Anyway, I didn't actually start potty training until he had his birthday. But he kept peeing in his undies! So...I took them away. All he wore was a shirt. If the only thing to pee/poop in is the potty, it makes a difference. I also would give him drinks of things he didn't normally get to drink (like koolaid) as a reward for just sitting on the potty. Makes them have to go sooner. And the potty was in the room he spent the most time in for a couple of days. I have since potty trained 4 boys all by the age of 2 1/2. I don't wait until they show interest, they don't care. Hope this helps!

Joy - posted on 04/15/2013

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Wait until they are ready. We started at 2 with my daughter and she didn't really take an interest until she was 3. I wish I would have just waited.
I owned my own day care center for 14 years and was the director at another center for 7 years before that. I have potty trained so many kids in my years in day care. Wait it is not worth the frustration.

Nicole - posted on 04/15/2013

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Both of my children were as stubborn as they could get when it came to potty training. I'm still trying to potty train my son. With my daughter I used marshmallows every time she would go I would give her one then she had problems with regressing. In all honesty, they will go when they are ready. I know, frustrating right!

Jessica Leigh - posted on 04/14/2013

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One tip for dueling penises is to put Cheerios or Fruit Loops in the potty. Something that they can aim at.

April - posted on 04/14/2013

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I dont know if you live in a place where this could actually be used, but my nephew started by "peeing on the bugs". In other words, he started going potty outside, then worked his way up to the potty. It was just more fun for him to pee on the bugs. haha.

Andrea - posted on 04/13/2013

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2 yr olds are scary
my grandson climbed into the driver's seat and put the car in gear
the car went downhill and through a very busy intersection without him being harmed
thank God for miracles
the car stopped on the bank the other side
my daughter got hurt
but THANK GOD again no broken bones...

Danielle - posted on 04/13/2013

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You can try cloth diapers. They don't absorb the pee or poop. It sits against their skin and they don't like it.
my daughter was hard too so we went and picked out a Big prize and she had to look at it everyday. We told her to go 20 days without an accident (not including nap or night). She put a sticker on a calendar each day. Good luck.

Yolanda - posted on 04/12/2013

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sooo true! thank you for the reminder of cherishing these moments that will soob become just a memory! =)

Adrienne - posted on 04/12/2013

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If he is fighting then he is not ready. Have him stand when peeing. My son would sit occasionally but once I taught him to stand, he never looked back. Poop took longer but he got there.

Andrea - posted on 04/12/2013

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When I potty trained my little girl, (last 4 kids were all girls, but I also have 2 boys) I gave her, her tooth brush. Every time she went to potty she got to use her tooth brush. It worked until my mil decided she didn't like the idea and refused to give it to my LO... We did get her potty trained, just took a little longer, We are currently working on the baby, she is 2 almost 3... It took me about 2 weeks to get her potty trained.. every once in a while she does have accidents, but for the most part she is doing well.. just keep at it... every time you go in to use the restroom have him go with you.. One thing my little one disliked was the fact that she had to use a "baby potty" so we just moved the pull out ring and stuck it in the adult toilet for her to use..

Yolanda - posted on 04/12/2013

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thanks hun they are soooo much more smarty then we give them credit for i took the potty chair out of the rest room and he seems to have more intrest that way....wish me luck!

Yolanda - posted on 04/12/2013

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thank you for your kind advice he went yesterday 2 times so im gona just keep leaving it up to him in his own time he will come around =)

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/12/2013

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He's like my son...he knows that's what the diaper is for, and doesn't want to change that! If he changes that, then he'll have to remember to leave his play to go potty...etc...

When my son reached that age, and told me "that's what my diapers are for", I donated the diapers to a daycare, and put him in underwear. He had to help me clean up his messes when he didn't go, and he got stickers or a hotwheels car when he did.

It took me a week to get him fully trained. :-) Sometimes kids are too darn smart, and we don't realize that when they're little guys!

Katharine - posted on 04/12/2013

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Just wait until he's ready! Boys train later than girls. My older son was really trained until 3 and half or 4, and my youger son more or less trained himself at 2 years 9 months.

But, that being said, make it kinda fun - aim a cheerios in the pottty, read books if he wants to sit down... try a timer to go off every 30 mins to try the potty if he's interested. good luck!

Rita - posted on 04/12/2013

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My boy didnt use the potty at all. He fought with me constantly, i finally gave up before i had a nervous breakdown, lol. And miracle of miracles not even 2 mnths later he was going on the toilet, both #1 and #2. If i had to do it over again i would just wait it out until he is ready, by the way this happened 2 months before school started and 4 months before his 4th b day. Time is the key word......... Dont stress it, he will eventually get there. Good luck.

Carol - posted on 04/11/2013

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My third child, a boy, did not like changes to his routine. His muscle development was somewhat slow--didn't walk alone till 18 months, which may be due to the gluten intolerance he discovered as an adult--but he could have been trained earlier than age four and a half. He just didn't want to, and I didn't bother to push him. But when his little sister was born and he realized he and the baby were in the same category, he trained himself in 3 days! Your son will not be in diapers in high school. Just relax--it will happen when he's good and ready.

Rian - posted on 04/11/2013

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Time is probably your only answer. My son showed interested a bit when he was 2 but didn't actually get potty trained fully till he was 4 years old. Don't stress about it, it will come when he is ready, I promise :)

Brenda - posted on 04/11/2013

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Have you tried a potty chair and letting him sit on it while watching his favorite tv show, then when he goes you can praise him. Remember every child will do it when their ready so if he feels your anxiousness or anxiety he may not do what you want him to do. Try not to show your expressions, and act like it doesn't matter, try no to show your upset and praise him and reward him when he does go. I had three boys and boys are tricky, we had a my buddy doll and I put Specimen in potty chair by buddy was sitting on while he was on chair, it worked for #2 too see his friend go, so another sibling or friend or doll works too. Relax most of all when it happens He'll keep it up, and be a big boy a mother of three boys age 50

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I had special "potty toys". Some of his favorite items - ONLY for when he sat and tried to go potty. ONLY. They never left the bathroom, not for the tub - only for the potty. It enticed him to go, let him know the bathroom was not a scary place, associated it with happy things, etc.

Stephanie - posted on 04/10/2013

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I had issues with my daughter. Girls are easier to potty train? Not in my case! She is a wonderful child in every other way. Except she is a severely picky eater, which might go hand in hand with the potty thing. I can not force anything into or out of that child, LOL! By 18 months she was sleeping dry at nap AND at night. It became an issue at her school when she was bumped up to the 4 year old class. Thankfully there was another little boy in pull-ups too. (Maybe I wasn't a failure?) All the females in my family showed her that we all potty, we tried to make it fun, I tried not to shame her when it didn't work. It took a lot of patience and potty dances when she did go. Promising treats didn't work, she'd decide she didn't want a few m&m's after all. At first, she would only go for me, no one else. And I had to ask her to come to the potty. Actually I figured out I had to "tell" her to come potty, or else she would just say no! When I had to potty, I'd say, "let's go potty". She would sit on her potty and me on mine. I have no idea what happened, except that SHE decided to use the potty. It was difficult for me, because I was trying and worrying and I knew that showing my worry would make it worse.... Ugh. That was in December. She turned four in February and just loves her My Little Pony panties. And I do too! SOOO...... My advice; don't pressure him, don't pressure yourself, and absolutely don't let anyone pressure you! Like anything, "monkey see, monkey do", eventually.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/08/2013

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Do NOT fight him. He will win every time. This is one thing he has absolute control over. Fighting him and forcing him will only make it more difficult to train him. He is completely not ready yet. Wait a couple of months and revisit it. If he resists still, wait another couple of months. Also, there is no correlation to abc's, or understanding what you are saying verses being ready to potty train.

Yolanda - posted on 04/08/2013

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thank you for your advice much appreciated i will give it a lil more time just hope he finds intrest in the potty soon =)

Sarah - posted on 04/08/2013

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He is not ready yet. Give it time. When he is ready he will want to do it.

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