Help! I'm pregnant, stressed and depressed.

Kelly - posted on 02/05/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




I know being stressed is not good for me right now, but having a life changing event has triggered so much. I am wanting to move closer to my family, but my boyfriend can't right now and wants me to stay. The thing is... He has no stable job, no car, lives with his mother, and can't even pay child support on his other kid. He's at risk for going to jail.... ( I know... I picked a real winner). He says he really loves me and wants to be apart of this kiddos life. He seems really excited about the baby, but I'm having issues with him not bringing enough to the table. I understand he has a lot on his plate and can't up and move with me. Ugh... I guess I'm mainly scared of doing this alone and I'm resenting everything. Again, not healthy. Being a single mom wasn't on my life plan. I come from a very loving and stable family. Lost and looking for tips on coping and managing stress and guilt.


Andrea - posted on 02/05/2014




It sounds to me like you need to Take a Deep Breath, Once you have done this make a list of Pros and Cons of staying and moving.. Look at them very carefully No one ever plans to be a single mommy, but sometimes it is better for the child or children.. Once you have looked them over if the Pros out weigh the Cons to move then you need to make the best choice not only for you but for BABY... Baby is number one before him, some times "men" like to put their needs before baby and you..
He should not be adding to the stress or guilt he should be telling that you need to do what is best for you and baby, not saying don't go I love you and want to take care of this kiddo.. I understand, as when I had my first son my husband and I had rough times and he told me that I needed to do what was best for baby.. However we made it work after spending a little time apart and now have 3 kids and been together 8 years..
If he is not caring for his other child though it is a high probability that he will only care for yours a short time and then move on, have seen it happen many time with my girlfriends.. I really wish you the best and I hope this is helpful in some small way... Take care of you and baby and Best Wishes...

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