HELP! I think I have to cut my best friend out of my life because of her son and the way she manages him!

Elena - posted on 12/09/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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There are some very difficult issues at home and also, unfortunately some mental health issues that are impacting him, so I have been very sympathetic. Bottom line is he is hyper-sensitive--which she coddles--and he has been caught lying several times, but she still doesn't believe he's ever at fault. He will cry and have a fit (he's 7 yo) when he doesn't get his way with other children and then blame them for the issue. The problem is that it is now affecting my son. Her son got upset because my son didn't want to play the way he wanted to. After that her son LOST it--(another scary thing as she has been so afraid of him in the past that she has locked herself with her younger daughter in the bedroom away from him,) and was borderline bullying my son. I told her I was very disappointed in the way she handled it and that his behavior is how bullying starts--I am direct, but kind, I promise. Now my son, even 6 months later, doesn't want to ever go over there anymore. She is truly one of my best friends, and I've tried just seeing her alone without the children, but it's getting to be difficult. Plus, I like to do things as a family. I just feel like my only option is to move her to the back row of my life, but that really makes me sad. I've tried talking to her about it, but she just is unable to admit that her child is a problem even with all of the evidence from school and her OWN experiences with his lying and bullying. It's difficult to point out that the teacher has sent home notes, or that she herself in the past has claimed she is having issues because he keeps lying to her about things. Any suggestions?

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Elena - posted on 12/09/2012

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BTW, the mental health issues are not his, but his dad's so I've tried to be supportive as they manage that. I just can't do that at the expense of my own children.

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