Kristin - posted on 04/15/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
Little back ground on my problems. I left my now 8 yr old sons father shortly after I found out I was pregnant and told he was cheating on me. My sons father has very little to do with him. We have a court order for him to pick him up at my house at a certain time on Saturday and bring him home the same day. The reason I went to get visitation was because he would say he wants to pick my son up and then he would be a no call no show and then go around and tell people I won't let him see his son. Now since this visitation order has been put in place he hasn't bothered to call or see his son but only once every three or four months. After the first few months of this I stopped trying to call him because I was getting nowhere and it was just a waste of time and effort.
Now three or more years later (he's seven at this point). My son starts asking me why daddy doesn't like him. (Now I've never talked badly to him about his father ever. Anytime he's asked about his dad I would try and call and when I got no response I would tell my son he's busy working. ). We'll you could imagine how bad that would make you feel knowing your child feels hurt like this. I contacted his father and told him hey listen he feels abandoned by you and he needs his father figure in his life so you need to step up. So now he goes to his dads every other weekend with his half sister from another woman.
No to the big issue I'm having now. Since my son has been seeing his father, his dad now seems it's far to speak to me any way he wants. Oh I forgot to mention before he flys off the handle at every lthing and it's impossible to have an adult conversation with him but when we didn't have contact there was never any issues. He texts me saying things like all I care about is the child support money and that he doesn't even know his son because I wouldn't let him see him before. Which isn't true remember that court order that's still in place. I have always been able to keep my cool but I've had enough. He tells other people these lies about me and I feel like there's nothing I can do. Has anyone else been in this predicament before and did you find a solution that doesn't hurt your child but protected you from these issues?
Sorry that was long and winded but I'm out of answers and patience so if anyone has advice I would love to hear it.