Maria - posted on 09/10/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have been sitting here reading the advice given to other moms about unruly 17,16,15 etc..year old's and im crying. My 17 year old son is alot like those other children and nothing like alot of the other troubled teens. I thought i was raising them the right way. I watched cartoons with them, went to school events, sport events I did everything for them. To the point where it was all for them and none for me. I then took the time for me and all hell broke loose. I have an 18,17,13 year old and im about to walk out on the two oldest. My 17 year old today showed me who is the boss. I came to realize it isnt me unless i involve the cops. I'm embarrassed to call the cops on my own child. I was challenged, belittled, sworn at and everything under the sun except physically touched by him today(oh yah and chest bumped and face challenged nose to nose). He has a short (very short fuse) I called the cops for advice and i am still responsible for what he does until he is 18. No one will take him in. He is 100% right in all things he says. No one can tell him how to live or even suggest a better option for him. I have been told i cant put him out. So what are my options. Live with this abuse , Leave this house with my youngest, or move and don't tell him where i am going? Option three sounds the most promising. Dont get me wrong I love my son. The stuff i have gone through in the last 4 years proves it. The fact i am here proves it. He is selling drugs, using drugs, drinking, he hardly is here, Skips school is late for school allot. Is attending school with conditions. I know im not a perfect mom but it becomes tiring being the sole everything in this house and being treated like you are garbage. The names i was called today drew the line but the guilt is eating me alive. I don't know what to do. Im the parent but im a bigger chicken. Help what can i do? I am so lost in what my options are with him. The laws don't really help.
His Father is in the same boat as i am. We do not live together but he is there for him. Right now he is out of town working. I will say one thing I dont drink smoke do drugs and have always let my children know why. I was always close with my kids till recently when all this started happening with both my sons. my 17 year old is more out of control.