help me

Daniel - posted on 11/10/2012 ( no moms have responded yet )

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someone please help me , i am not a mum ... i am not even a dad . i am a stepfather (as is regularly pointed out this is not the same as being a dad) and husband , and i dont know what to do .i love my wife and stepkids so much .my wife suffers with deppression and sleeps alot , she has recently been diagnosed with M.E./chronic fatigue syndrome , and chronic pain , but when she is not sleeping she takes her anguish out on me ... it has not yet gotten physical but mental abuse is so hard for me to deal with (i am dyslexic and dyspraxic and suffer from anxiety and agorophobia) . she blames me for her anger and argues with me , always managing to twist the argument to suit her own ends . she belittles me and puts me down and makes me feel worthless . i am her full time carer , i cook, i clean, i go shopping, i maintain the house and gardens , i drive her and the kids where they need to go , i get the kids up for school , i walk the dogs , i take her to the doctors / hospital and whenever she can she says"what do you do?" and if i try and point these things out she says "well dont do it then" or "just say no" but i cant as who else would do this for her and the kids ?..... and to a degree who would do it for me ? (this is one example of the abuse) , our neighbour has expressed an interest in me and said to my wife she wanted to marry me (i do not feel the same way .... i love my wife) my wife holds this against me and brings it up by saying *why dont you move in with her " or "well if you hate me so much why dont you marry her" i dont hate her and have never said that or implied i would rather be with the neighbour . i have never been put on our tennancy agreemant so i cant ask her to leave (and she is fully aware of this... believe me) so i would have to leave , but i have no money and nowhere to go . i moved to her hometown to be with her and it is a long way from where i come from . because of our circumstances i have not been able to make friends here so there is no'one to talk to and nowhere to go. WHAT CAN I DOOOOOO help me please i feel like i am going crazy and am starting to think its me and its my fault help help help help help help help help pleeeeeaaaase

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