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Ashlee - posted on 03/24/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi I'm a single mother of 2 boys, me and their father have been on and off for the past five years. I'm finding it hard to move forward in my life because I have so many questions to ask their father but I don't know how to ask him. He's with another girl has been for 8 months now, I know he won't talk to me about the past but I need these answers so I can move on in life, I don't want him back I just want the truth. Anyone know of how you can help me out.

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Kristi - posted on 03/25/2013

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I just went through that with my second husband. I just wanted the whys and for once the truth. We are friends now. Why not tell me? But, it isn't going to happen. If I want to maintain our friendship and continue to get along, I just had to forget about it. Easier said than done and like Jodi said, time makes all the difference. My ex has let a few things slip here and there and it actually did still sting. I couldn't say anything because we're over. Sometimes ignorance is bliss after all. Take care of yourself now. Find happiness in what you enjoy. Stay in touch and hold close the relationships you have in your life now. Focus on what you can do "today" to improve your quality of life. Hang in there. ; )

Jodi - posted on 03/24/2013

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I agree with Dove. In the end, you have to move on regardless of what happened. Is the truth going to help? Clearly he has moved on, and you can't force him to talk to you about it. Now you just have to accept that you may never know and just find a way to co-parent your children. In time, you won't even care what happened because ultimately, it is not going to change the outcomes.

If it is really bugging you that much, a counsellor may be the way to go.

Dove - posted on 03/24/2013

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Let it go... as best you can. I know it is frustrating to not have certain answers, but you can't make someone else tell you the truth. All you can do is your best to let it go and move on. Talking it over with a friend... or even a counselor... might help... and time. Time really helps a lot.

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Jodi - posted on 03/25/2013

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In all honesty, my ex accused me so often of cheating on him that I suspect he was the one doing the cheating. It is only in hindsight I see that he may have been. I've never asked. And now, I don't actually care. I appear to have no diseases, so who cares? It wasn't the "true" reason we broke up.

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