Help me! Mold concern

Jessica - posted on 11/06/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Hello all, I need help with a big concern of mine. I'm expecting my first child, due in just a couple weeks (Nov 25th). My husband is already talking about bringing her to family member's home, which is of course understandable. I'm concerened about his grandmother's home. She isn't capable of cleaning and has a lot of animals, therefore there is mold on some of the walls and the home smells of mildew plus animal urine/feces. I have asthma and I'm not sure if thats going to have any affect on my daughter. His grandmother isn't capable of traveling either so the only way to see her great grandchild is for us to come to her. My question is if it would be alright to bring my baby to her home and if so for how long and if not how can I say no to my husband and his grandmother so they understand and don't get their feelings hurt?

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Jo - posted on 11/07/2009

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I'd talk to your doctor and see what he/she says. We had to move due to the house we were renting had rising damp and mold, I really didn't want it to affect my newborn baby's lungs.

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It shouldn't hurt your baby if its only for a short time. BUT MOMMYS KNOW WHATS BEST FOR THERE BABIES SO YOU DECIDE! But me personally i wouldn't,SEND HER A PICTURES LOL AND COME UP WITH REASON WHY YOU CANT GO ANYWHERE or tell her the truth your house is moldy and nasty with pee your gross and i dont want my new born around that nasty house of yours HAHAHAHAHAH

Holly - posted on 11/06/2009

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A young baby needs time at home before becoming a world traveler however short of a trip. Especially with it being winter and flu season. Their immune system is very volunerable and with time comes strength. Keep this in mind as I'm certain your Dr will mention this. Not to mention allergies that are unknown and possible negative healthful conditions that are preexisting in the house that could trigger an unexpect episode.

For future visits once baby is a bit older and stronger...A good compromise to family issues of the sort is to possibly to travel but stay in a hotel to allow you and your husband the privacy to care of the baby for early ams and pms and good sound rest that will be routinely disruptive for non baby homes (those late pm risings how ever irratic). I would have outtings with Grandma however short if you must be at her house or in town enjoying the community area. A dirty house is one thing, but a house with mold, feces and other levels of contaminates is a whole other level. Hedge on caution. Express your concerns for the babies health and if it's a place you guys will want to take the baby, maybe family can help her tidy up a bit more to make the house a better environment if not for the baby but for her. This is time you may never get back with sharing your new addition with family, but health and safety should always come first. Taking health and safety into consideration will nearly guarantee more visits that can be enjoyed by all in the future.

Travel safe & smart ... Best wishes on your decision.

Tiffany - posted on 11/06/2009

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I would ask your doctor. Your are not being mean or rude...this is your baby and you have ever right to be concerned....just double check :) good luck!!!! :) and congrats

Samantha - posted on 11/06/2009

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well if it was me and its my babys health risk i couldnt do it unless we were at my house or she stepped outside on the porch, because im not going take the risk if i had asthma or get something from the animals, and if it smells urine/feces if u keep inhaling it u can get pneumonia from that and then u would have to take her to the hospital, and im sure ur husband would understand if it comes to ur babies health

Venessa - posted on 11/06/2009

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just tell your husband straight them conditions aren't safe for anyone not just a baby, he should understand. you just want whats best like any mother, even if you do upset family members your babys more important.

good luck!

Carol - posted on 11/06/2009

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I agree with the last comment, you've gotta be very careful with mold and mildew around children, especially tiny baby lungs.
I would just be honest with your husband, if he doesnt understand, maybe you and him should address this to your doctor together.
another thing I'm not sure if you're aware of or not, there is something on the bottom of cats paws that is VERY bad for pregnant women, and can cause birth defects. I'm not quite sure how badly it can effect a newborn, but I know they strongly suggest that pregnant women stay away from cat's litter boxes, etc.
I think for the health of your daughter and your own, you should probably make very short visits, or possibly get her out of her house, just to a restaurant or something like that if that is possible

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I would say for the saftey of your child that you should not bring him/her there. There is alot of health concerns for children, I would assume they are more severe with babys. As to what to say....I would hope that if bring up the saftey issues that you husband would understand and agree. May grandma can come to your house once in awhile to see the baby and have a relaxing day at the your house

Catherine - posted on 11/06/2009

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When my son was 4, we moved into an apartment. The closet in his bedroom held the hot water heater. There was a leak somewhere between that and the air conditioner that was in the same area. We kept smelling mold/mildew but couldn't figure it out. We finally took out everything in his closet and found that the carpet was wet and the wall bases were covered in mildew. For the 3 years we lived in this apartment and before we knew the cause, our son had severe allergies and asthma. His health problems got so bad that he was on daily medication and even had to take him to an urgent care one night because his allergies got so bad that he couldn't breath from coughing so much. When we finally figured out what the problem was, we had maintenance replace the dry wall in his closet but all they did was put a band-aid on it. They did not fix the actual problem (the leak) They said it would be impossible to find it. After a couple of months the mildew came back and we decided to move. We moved into our house and our son is a completely different person. We have not had to use his inhaler since we moved in here in May. I do believe the mold/mildew caused my son's allergies and asthma. I feel so guilty putting him through all that suffering. My brother told me there was a special on t.v. where people had been living with mildew/mold for a while and it affected their brain. They went crazy. I don't know if there is any truth to this but it's worth doing some research. Maybe if you found some informative information about mold/mildew and the effects on a person's health and show your husband or family member. But if you are just talking about brief visits, maybe there is no harm. Maybe you can purchase an air purifier for her for Christmas and not hurt her feelings.

Jessica - posted on 11/06/2009

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Thank you all so much for your help. She lives close by therefore its difficult to say no and avoid telling her the reasoning. I will ask my doctor, I guess I'm nervous to bring it up in front of my husband because I know it will hurt his feelings but its something I'll have to do for my daughter's best interest. I've wanted to help his grandmother and clean but have been discouraged by several family members do to her emotional sensitivity. Again thank you all very much.

Candice - posted on 11/06/2009

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have you considered it's not good for her health either? (the grandmother's i mean). Is there any way you can help her clean it up so it's no longer an issue? then everyone can stay healthy!

Wendy - posted on 11/06/2009

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I totally sympathize. I didn't want to take my son to see his great great aunt because she's in a nursing home, it was December/January and a lot of the residents are perpetually sick with various viruses (cold, flu, etc.). In the end, my parents brought her to a nearby cafe where we met for a short visit. Can this grandmother be transported anywhere close by? Good luck!

Remember, at the end of the day you have to do what's best for your baby - no matter how that makes anyone else feel. It's not up to them - it's a decision only you and your husband can make. Whatever happens, don't let yourselves feel bullied into doing something you're not comfortable with.

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thats a hard one.. if it were me, i wouldnt bring the baby there.. too many germs, animal hair, the mold, yikes!!.. and your asthma obviously..i would think that your husband would understand.. you dont want a lil newborn exposed to that healthy or otherwise.. maybe you can see if theres another family member willing to pick her up and bring her to your house or anothers house in the family.. your husband could always pick her up.. you could use the excuse with the grandmother that you just had the baby and feel more comfortable at home right now

Jodi - posted on 11/06/2009

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Jessica, is there any way you can stay in a motel or something, and just have a couple of small day visits? That's what I would do. I'm sure your husband will understand, and this way, you are still making the effort to see his grandmother too.

TRACIE - posted on 11/06/2009

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I would discuss this issue with my OBGYN with your husband present so he can here the answer fo his self. Personrly I would visit ony for about an hour , and stay at a motel.

Beth - posted on 11/06/2009

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If the babys has asthma or allergies to mold this can be very dangerous. Try asking a allergy asthma Specialist for some information packets on the subject and let the hubby read them. I understand and for years didnt want to hurt peoples feelings and went for visites. Making my son and myself sick, one day we ended up in the ER. That was it. From then on if we couldnt have a meeting place I just sent a picture.

Amy - posted on 11/06/2009

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I would talk to the doctor about it. They are the most knowledgable people when it comes to health. That way if the answer is no you can just say that it's doctors orders. Hopefully everyone can accept that.

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