Help me! My 2yr. old son won't sleep through the whole night without sleeping in our bed

Lisa - posted on 10/26/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Every night at about 9:30 my husband or I put our son to sleep in his room and close his door. Then, like clockwork my son wakes up at 3:30 in the morning, pleading for us to open his door, until one of us gives in and he winds up sleeping in our bed for the rest of the night. I'm a light sleeper as it is and takes at least 45 mins.-an hour to fall back asleep.

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Marlene - posted on 10/27/2011

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PS: My son is now 16 and a happy, secure boy. We have never had any problems with him behaviour or otherwise.

Marlene - posted on 10/27/2011

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Find a spot in the room where he will be okay, my son used to sleep at the foot of our bed. Limit afternoon naps to hour max, then wake him up.

Lisa - posted on 10/27/2011

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Also, I'd be afraid of waking up i the middle of the night and stepping on him if I allowed him to come into our room and sleep on the floor.

Lisa - posted on 10/27/2011

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My son naps for about 45mins.-1hr & 1/2 a day in addition to waking up at 3:30. He will go back to sleep after pleading to get out of his room and come into ours, though.

Marlene - posted on 10/27/2011

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Agreed, he needs to have a bath and then be put to bed earlier. Read him a story and tuck him in with a teddy as company. Perhaps leave a small dim lamp on. Do not close his door, this could make him more apprehensive. My son too would come to our room in the middle of the night, but was never allowed in the bed. I would allow him to sleep on some bedding on the floor next to me. Many nights I wouldn't even know he had come in. When he was ready, he stopped out of his own accord to come into our room. Good luck! I do find it so strange --- as adults we are 2 in the room together, yet we expect our children to be alone in their rooms??? In many African cultures it is the norm for little children to be in the same room with mom. They think we are strange, perhaps they are right?

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2011

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Exactly Emma, she never said he isn't going back to sleep. She said SHE was having trouble going back to sleep. But whatever Sharlene. I was simply making the point that 9:30 isn't REALLY a bit late to be going to bed, depending on the child's schedule, and that the 12 hours depends on the child. Some kids need more, some need less. I have one who could sleep 14 plus hours a day at that age, and another who honestly probably only had 10 hours a day in total, and gave up her daytime naps, and functioned perfectly fine. It varies.

Stifler's - posted on 10/27/2011

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he's going back to sleep in their bed, not staying awake from 3am.

Stifler's - posted on 10/27/2011

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My son does the same. It's very annoying. He takes up the whole bed. he only seems to do it when he's cutting teeth.

Emma - posted on 10/27/2011

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I agree with Sharlene,a 2year old child NEEDS 12hrs sleep to develop properly. At most they would be sleeping 1-2hrs during the day so another 10hrs sleep at night is beneficial for a child. They might not want to sleep at night,but they NEED it.

Sharlene - posted on 10/27/2011

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Correct.So lets ask Lisa if he sleeps during the day shall we? So if he sleeps 9:30pm to 3:30am in your theory,then he is getting 6hours sleep a day?Lets ask Lisa how long he sleeps during the day,Lisa???????

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2011

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Actually, on the topic of napping, how long is your child napping during the day? Sometimes shortening up the nap can help them sleep longer at night. However, please be assured that what your son is doing is perfectly normal. Nearly 50% of children this age are still waking at night........it's just that not all of them bug their parents, LOL.

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2011

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Lisa, my daughter woke a lot when she was between 3 and 4. She used to have a lot of nightmares, and nightlights and the like never worked. I understand how frustrating it can be. We don't actually close her door, and when she was REALLY young, we didn't fully close our door either, so she was able to come to us if she needed us. She was always trying to climb into bed and wanting to sleep with me, so I grabbed an old cot mattress and decided to just set that up NEXT to my side of the bed with blankets and pillows. After that, she would come in and curl up there, and that seemed to do the trick. Sometimes I heard her come in, sometimes she still woke me up for a cuddle, but other times she just took comfort in being near me. Something like that may or may not work for you.



@ Sharlene, sleep needs for children at this age vary, and are generally 12 hours depending on the child. Just remember that children are often still having daytime naps at this age and that contributes to the 12 hours a day...... So when you think of it like that, a toddler going to bed at 9:30 is probably getting plenty of sleep if they are still having naps......it really depends on their schedule.

Sharlene - posted on 10/26/2011

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Hi , That abit to late for a 2 yr old child to go to bed, he might be afaire of the dark or bad nitemares have you's thought about a touch lamp in his room and leave on for him and does he a seciurty banket or a favorite toy that can cuddle, try of a night to leave him probably for 20 /30 mins if he does sound distress then try to calm him down and keep trying that then try again the next 30/40 mins without leaving but he he again sound distress calm him down again.Cheers

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