Help me?!?!?!?!?!?! My daughter is having sex and I do not know what to do!

Mydaughterrocks1502 - posted on 06/17/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Well I am a father of a 14 year old and it is just me and my daughter nobody else is involved in her life! Her mom has never been here! Well just about two years ago my daughter got a boyfriend and I let it slide and got to know the parents, until they started playing the "nervous game" we told them they did not need to date, and they were just friends after that! When she turn 13 they secretly dated but we found out and let it go! Now she is 14 years old and my daughter snuck out and went over to her boyfriends house, as his mom and dad came home, they caught both of them! I have already had the "sex talk" about the dangers and all! I took her privileges away and she is left with a mattress in the floor at the moment, but when I am at work she either sneaks him in or she goes over there! I just do not know what to do?? Any suggestions

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/19/2014

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Don't let her have down time. Get her into after school programs, and active in the community. She has lost trust, and is not allowed home alone any more. Don't make it a punishment, have her help pick. Don't tell her why she is enrolling either, just that you want her to explore her talents, and meet new people. Dance classes, instruments, sports, language, tae kwon doe....whatever her interests are.

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2014

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main thing get her on birth-control ASAP! shes going to be sneaky still to the father with the daughter thats having sex.

Lisa - posted on 06/17/2014

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get a babysitter to watch her around the clock put some bars on her windows that way she cant sneak out or he cant sneak in. wow your hands are full like mine is with my teenager. yes when they hit in there teens they start going through changes within themselves, and they start checking out the boys. all this is not no suprise in this generation, its messed up. pray is one thing you can do ask God hes a better teacher than any of us. by lisa pittman.

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Sarah - posted on 06/19/2014

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TALK TO HER!! LISTEN TO HER!!! Honestly, if you haven't figured out that she's going to figure out how to do it regardless yet then it's time to accept that. I would immediately take her to the doc and have them talk with her about it as well as get her a pap smear done AND get the girl some birth control. Then...I'd take the girl to work with you every day. Just like I tell my kids, "If I can't trust you to make the right choice when my back is turned you'll always be in front of me" Then I make them shadow me around the house so I can constantly keep an eye on them. It's equally annoying for both of us but has only happened a few times and they straighten right up. Even though you know she's probably going to find a way to do it you can still make it tough for her while letting her know you accept that she's growing up and you respect that but you love her enough to protect her still.

Cathy - posted on 06/18/2014

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Maybe you need to have someone look over her while you are at work or put her in an after school program like the YMCA or boys and girls club.Its hard having teenagers .I have one that moved out at 18 with his girlfriend an have one other to deal with.Good Luck

Mydaughterrocks1502 - posted on 06/17/2014

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Thank you Lisa! Very great idea! I most defiantly got my hands full! I hate the stage of checking out boys! I pray about this every night

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