Help Me Please.

Rachel - posted on 07/13/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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A few days ago I walked by my daughters room and saw on her computer she was looking at pictures of amputee women (Women missing limbs) on the computer. I didn't confront her, quite frankly I didn't know what to do. The next day when she was out I went onto her computer pictures and saw a bunch of pictures of her and her friends photo shopped as amputees. She has never before shown an attraction to amputees or any interest. I looked up amputee fetish and found there is a whole area dedicated to people missing limbs, and even place where people with perfect bodies wish to have their limbs amputated, very eye opening. My daughter is 16, is very beautiful and has showed no signs of wishing to amputate her own limbs. Please help, I'm not sure what to do.
-Rachel

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Marica Petrovska - posted on 07/14/2016

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I'm a mom, if I was in your situation, first thing I would do is look at her computer to see what she is looking at. It's a motherly instinct to try help/ protect your child. We look to see if it's serious. If you can't talk to her, why don't you go to see a psychologist to talk about it. They will be able to answer your questions. Hopefully it isn't anything serious but I would want to understand why, and what I can do. Like prepare your self.
Good luck.

Nadine - posted on 07/14/2016

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Dove, I did not say she did not have a right. Just because something is legal does not make it right. If you are in a trusting relationship with your child, to snoop is a violation of trust. It is something they can resent you for pretty much forever. Ask me what it is like having your diary ready by your mother. I am 44 years old, and that still makes me bubble with resentment, because it was 100% unjustified, as I had not done anything to make her think I was doing anything wrong. If you give a child their own computer, yes, there is some expectation of privacy on that computer. It is much like a diary in that respect.

Dove - posted on 07/14/2016

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It isn't an invasion of privacy... at 16 the parents still have every right to know what their minor child is accessing on the internet and doing on the computer... at all times.

I agree w/ just asking her what she's thinking.

Nadine - posted on 07/14/2016

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Kids do weird stuff with photoshop all the time. Honestly, that is quite an invasion of her privacy. At 16, if she is not doing anything that makes you suspect drug use or criminal activity, why would you invade her privacy like that? In the future perhaps speaking with her rather than jumping to a rather wild conclusion may be a better plan.

Michelle - posted on 07/14/2016

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Just ask her why she was looking at those sites.
Hopefully you have an open relationship where you can bring up anything to each other.

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