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Jennifer - posted on 09/05/2016 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I have two daughters and the father has never been around for many yrs and never has help support at all. He went and took my girls and refuses to allow me to have them back, see them or even talk to them. I had two other daughters and they were killed in a wreak and one of them belongs to him and now hes taking my other babies and I'm losing it. I need help please

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Jodi - posted on 09/05/2016

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You didn't answer the question as to whether there is a custody/visitation order. If there isn't, then that is your first step. You need to talk to a lawyer.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/05/2016

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When you split, did you get custody, visitation, and support court ordered? If so, and if he is violating those orders, call your attorney.

If you did not...he is in violation of nothing. If the kids are his, biologically, he's got the same right to custody as you.

Either way, you need to consult with an attorney.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/05/2016

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That's what I said, Jennifer. If you did not sort out legal custody or support, he can do just as he has done.

It isn't what you want to hear, but it is the truth. You need to consult with an attorney.

Jodi - posted on 09/05/2016

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Jennifer, the reason he can take them after all these years and keep them from you is because you never had any orders in place around custody, so therefore, legally, he has as much right to them as you do. As a result, the police will do nothing. Your only course of action is to involve the courts and get orders for custody. That's just the way the law works. I know you came here for advice - but that is the only advice you are going to get because that's the only way you can pursue this. Noone here is saying it's right - what he has done is very wrong, morally. But legally, he's still within his rights. I'm sorry the answer isn't what you want to hear.

Jennifer - posted on 09/05/2016

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He could of came and seen our kids when ever he wanted but he chose not to! My oldest daughter is 11yrs old and her is sister is almost ten, they had seen him three maybe four times in all those yrs. He new where I lived and he's had my phone number. Look I came here for advice, how can he after all these yrs take them and keep them from me???

Jennifer - posted on 09/05/2016

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That's what I thought. I've searched high and low looking for some loop hole. Is there agencies, out there who help mothers in situations like mine. I haven't been back to working since my girls passed away and my husband and I are just very on our feet again.

Sarah - posted on 09/05/2016

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I still do not understand, if he took his bio-kids and will not return them, it is the same as if you refused him to see them. Why do you not want to file for custody?

Jennifer - posted on 09/05/2016

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No not that. He just sad away, and once every few yrs he would call and the girls wouldn't talk to hm. He never was there for birthdays, holidays, first day of school or anything. When my other two daughters died in wreak he didn't help with me with Mileys funeral or arrangement or help comfort our other girls. I'm trying to hold back the tears to reply. I've raised those babies for 11 and 9 yrs without him, never once did I ask him for money or anything. I don't know what to do.

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