Mary - posted on 04/11/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )
I am 23 and have been married for 2 years. I have been with my husband for nearly 6 years but was good friends with him for about 2 years before we actually got together. My husband is the sweetest person I know, he is such a loving husband and father, but I do feel like we have drifted apart. I feel like I have grown so much since having our daughter who is one and a half, she is the most important thing in my life and since having her I feel more happy with who I am. I still love my husband deeply and want him to be happy and I know I do not want to hurt him but I don't feel attracted to him physically. We are just so different. We get along really well and I know that leaving him would crush him, so i just stay here not unhappy but not fullfilled. I don't feel excited about anything and see time just go swifting by. I am also afraid of being the black sheep of the family, all of my close members are in the relationships they have always been in. No one has ever divorced and no broken families, I don't want my son to have a broken home and have to go back and forth I want him to have a family. What do I do?
I don't think I could ever have an affair but I have crushes on other men and fantasise about having affairs. I want to have sex but just not with my husband. It feel weird, Like I am having sex with my friend or something. I don't get turned on by him at all.
I want to try and work on this though because I do love him and I want my daughter to have 2 happy parents and I'm not sure if this is just a phase I am going through. My hubs such a good man and I don't want to break his heart.
I just don't know where to start is all.