Help me stop my son from sneaking into my bed.

Donna - posted on 09/19/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My 4 year old son starts out in his bed (after being put back to bed 4-5 times). Sometime during the night he sneaks into my bed. I am a heavy sleeper and do not now when he comes. The times I have caught him he screams and cries waking up my other 2 children. He shares a bunk bed with his older brother so it is not like he is being put into a room alone.(I put them together thing to solve this problem) I have tried reward and praise for staying in his bed but has not worked. Please help!

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Elyria - posted on 09/19/2011

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Hi Donna, my oldest did the same thing, so I feel for you. My son would swear up and down that he was having nightmares (magically before he even fell asleep!) so what I finally did was give him a stuffed animal which I told him had magic powers to keep nightmares away - like a dream catcher, but more snuggly. For the first few nights my son would still try to come into my room, but I would tell him that he couldn't possibly have had nightmares because the stuffed animal kept it away.
I don't know why your sons specific reason is for needing to be in your bed, but find the using 'kid logic' works wonders.
Hope this helps and good luck!

-E

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Amanda - posted on 09/20/2011

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Well its that or have a child in your bedroom. We as parents can find any excuse why we cant do something (because truthly we dont want to do it), or the family can deal with being woken up for a week, until this child learns he has to sleep in his own bed. At the age of 4 years old it shouldnt even take a week for him to learn he is no longer allowed in his mothers bed.



Btw personally I think the toy idea is a horrible idea. First off what happens when your child actually does have a nightmare and you are busy lying to your child that it isnt possible for him to of had a nightmare, because of a toy? Second I dont believe in rewarding (getting a toy) for bad behaviour.



This child is 4 not 2, and should be treated as such.

Donna - posted on 09/20/2011

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I am going to try the magic stuffed animal idea. I may take him to build a bear and let him build his friend. Amanda, the problem with carrying him to bed is her sreams and wakes up him brother that has school in the morning and need his sleep.

Amanda - posted on 09/19/2011

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When you find him in your bed pick him up and put him back into his bed. If he wakes up tell him he is to sleep in his own bed.

Donna - posted on 09/19/2011

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He does not say anything about being afraid or nightmares. Alot of the problem is I really do not know when he get in bed with us. I just wake up and find him there.

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