help me with greedy grandma

Nancy - posted on 10/29/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I want to love this lady called mother-in-law but she gives me reasons not to. Problem is she's looking for opportunities to throw a party for my kids, downside is she collects and keeps all the presents and checks to herself. Then, she rewards herself by getting extensive vacations our new gadgets, and my kids get nothing. She has never bought anything for her only grandkids. When I tell her we don't want parties like this she still goes around and manages to get away with her ways. Please tell me strategies to stop her from throwing these parties for my kids.

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Sarah - posted on 10/30/2015

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Wow, that is such an odd thing to do! She is using your kids to benefit herself financially. I'd for sure tell FIL, this has to stop.

Sarah - posted on 10/29/2015

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Wait, am I understanding this right? She throws a party for a grandchild but keep all the presents and monetary gift to herself? Your kids get nothing? Stop saying yes to the parties. Or, the next time, as each gift gets opened take it to your car and put the envelopes of money in your purse. Is this her way of making money? If she needs financial help, that is a topic for her to address with her son, not use her grand kids.
What must the guests think when they don't get a thank you note? Or see she endorsed the check? You may be best off finding out why she is doing this? Maybe she is destitute, has a gambling problem or is behind in a loan payment plan? I can't even fathom someone doing this!

Ev - posted on 10/29/2015

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You can not stop her from tossing these parties but you might want to point out to her that if this is for the kids then the presents and money are for the kids and not her benefit. I would maybe find out who is all invited and let them know she does this.

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Nancy - posted on 10/29/2015

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Thanks sarah! I had been politely excusing saying no the party but she doesn't give up, her dialogue delivery keeps a potential out for yes. This time I should say no straight and let muy FIL know too. She's well off and FIL pays all bills, but funds raised over my kids becomes her expensive vacations. There's no concept of thank you note in her circle, she gets invited in return and uses boxed gifts as presents.

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