Help meeeee.

Gigi - posted on 07/04/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )




Im 6 weeks pregnant. Im 19 years old and the babies father is a drug addict. he just got out of detox, but he's still using. I live with my mom, stepdad, 13yr old sister and 8yr old brother. I sleep on the couch in the living room. what do i do?


Caroline - posted on 07/04/2012




The best thing I think to do, is to have the baby and put the baby up for adoption. That is the best thing to do, adoption agencies give you resources to help you through the pregnancy. The scary question is: did the father of the child use drugs while getting you pregnant? If so, there could be complications with the fetus.

Brittney - posted on 07/04/2012




There is nothing wrong with terminating this pregnancy if you do not want to be a mother yet. That is what I would do if I were in the place you are. You need to act fast and then get on birth control so you are not in this position again. If you decide to have a baby then you need to get help try to get housing and food stamps and whatever else you can. You need to go to school so you can get a job to care for your baby. It is going to be very hard for a long long time. Some would say totally worth it, others would not. It is up to you.

Michelle - posted on 07/04/2012




You really need to decide if you can bring up the child on your own. To be honest with you it doesn't sound like you are in the best position to bring a child into this world.

Maybe contact your local family planning clinic and get some information about your options.


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♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 07/05/2012




I'll just tell you what I told the 15 year old young lady who found out she was pregnant, look into adoption agencies. It's most likely your best choice even if it's not the easiest. My birth mom was 18 when she found out she was pregnant with me and she was in the same situation you were and wanted to go back for her GED. She knew that she would be doing the best thing for me by giving me away.

It's not the easiest thing in the world I'd imagine to give your child up for adoption, but it is best for the child when you aren't able to give him or her basics without failing to do something else. And now you can even do an open adoption that allows you to contact your child every so often and have visitation. Back when I was adopted the only option was a closed adoption.

Julie - posted on 07/05/2012




I am the mother of two adopted children, and I would say place the child for adoption. There are many families out there that are like my husband and me that couldn't have a baby of our own, and desperately wanted children. Four years ago today we brought home our first son from the hospital. He was two weeks old and six weeks premature. We had four days from the day the birth mother choose us to bring him home. Eighteen months later we were blessed with another baby boy, which we also brought home from the hospital. Both adoptions are very different, one we are in contact with the birth parents and the other have chosen not to be contacted. But what is the same is the love we have for them both.

If you do place the child for adoption, please do not think you are ‘giving away’ your baby, but know that you are doing the most selfish act of love a mother could do - placing your baby in a loving home. A home where the child will have opportunities that you might not otherwise be able to provide. Our two children, at ages 2 & 4, have traveled, already have two years of college paid for, parents that have completed masters degrees, have careers, money in the bank and life experiences. Please, do talk to someone. God blessed you with this baby, now bless someone else with a forever child.

If you want to talk more, I am happy to talk to you.

Joanne - posted on 07/04/2012




Ok so you pregnant, take a deep breath and some time to go for a long walk on your own just with you and your baby. Having this baby will be hard but you know what will be harder? 16 years down the line when you see young girls laughing together or young boys messing around and wonder if that should be your child. You made a choice that resulted in this child, you now need to step it up and take responsibility. You have the power to change things and make life better for you and this baby. Hey you must be a great mom already as you didn't rush out to a family planning clinic instead you came to a group of moms - which shows you already care for your baby. I have a friend who had her daughter at 16. Her daughter is now 15 and I stand in awe of this wonderful young lady before me. My friend had to take a deep breath, drop out of school (and go back 2 yrs later to finish it) she didn't have a car and they walked an hour to church each week just her and her little girl, she found strength to do the best for her little girl. She then couldn't bear to leave her and go to work and she didn't approve of the schools around so she started a school for her daughter! When I listen to how this 16year old mothered her baby I stand in awe of how much better she did than I did at 30! Go find a church that you think you'd feel safe in and ask them where is the best place to start. Thank you for entrusting us with this precious baby's future,we'll be praying for you Gigi. (You can read more about Being Mom at )

Elfrieda - posted on 07/04/2012




There are many people longing to adopt a baby. If you go through a private adoption agency (try a Catholic church near you, they often have something set up, or information on how to go about it) you can choose the people you want your baby to go to, even interview them if you want.

Firebird - posted on 07/04/2012




If you don't want to carry the baby, act now. If you plan to keep the baby, get a job! Babies are expensive. You can also look into adoption. There's probably a counselor in your area who can help decide which option is best for you.

Louise - posted on 07/04/2012




You contact welfare and see what you are entitled to financially and then you go from there. If you want to keep the baby you are going to need a lot of help especially if the father is a drug addict. If you dont want to keep the baby, at this stage you can take two pills that would end the pregnancy within 10 hours. I can not tell you what to do. You need to think about the future. How would you cope as a single parent and are you strong enough to raise a child potentially alone. Your age has nothing to do with it. There are many women in there 30's that chose not to continue a pregnancy.

It is purely your choice but give it a lot of thought. The tablets can only be taken up untill you are 8 weeks after that it is surgery. So give it some thought over the next few days as it is you alone that has to live with the decision of having or not having a baby. Good luck!

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