Help! My 10 year old boy is totally out of control.

Kelly - posted on 10/24/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Help.... my 10 year old son is totally out of control. He says no all the time, he cusses at his father and I, his brothers and to friends when he is out playing with friends. He has HUGE temper tantrums. He gets sooo angry and loses his temper (at home- only at home). He hardly ever listens and is very defiant BUT he can be really sweet, caring, loving and kind. What do we do? What is going on? read more details below

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Kelly - posted on 10/24/2013

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My 10 year old son is totally out of control and it seems to be getting worse. He is a very active boy and loves to be outside all the time. Most of his temper tantrums and out bursts arise from him not wanting to do his homework.

He cusses at me and his Dad at least every other day. He is extremely disrespectful in SO many ways.

He has HUGE temper tantrums. He throws everything in has path: dumps all the papers out of his or his brothers notebooks, kicks things that are on the floor (no matter what they are), throws everything from the top of the stairs (clothes, towels, shoes ect..). Once he is finally in his room he will empty all of drawers of clothes and his closet. He will throw things at his door (hot wheels, shoes and what ever he gets his hands on). He screams how he hates his dad and I, he says he is leaving, that he is done with this family (he has 2 older brothers) and his Dad and I are happily married for 16 years. He will pack bags to run away from home but never has really gone anywhere. He takes his brothers phones and hides them. He will hide tv remote controls and I believe he has taken small amounts of money from his Dad, I or his brothers. EVERYTHING seems to be a struggle. You have to ask him at least 3 times to brush his teeth (and he will lie about it),you want him to take a bath, you have to ask him several times, tell him to put a coat on when its cold out NO. He says no all the time. He cusses all the time.

He is a very talented athlete. He plays year round lacrosse. He is very friendly and out going. Everyone loves him. He is a rough kid but he has 2 older brothers so I think that is to be expected. He does have a HUGE heart. He is a giver. He loves to buy others presents and will spend his own money. He loves to snuggle and still wants to sleep in bed with us (but we hardly let him). He sleeps easily in his own by himself. He is not a bad kid all the time. HELP! we don't know what to do.

Most of his temper tantrums start from having to do homework or study for a quiz or test. We have tried all different approaches and discipline options. We get strict and put him on restriction for being disrespectful and not listening. Restriction means he isn't aloud to play outside. All he ever wants to do is play outside and we hate to take that away but we know we have to take his priviledges away when he misbehaves. We have tried that several times and he just gets more and more angry and it makes it worse. We have tried positive attention and all sorts of things but nothing works. Some days he does his homework easily and quickly and others he makes a scene that lasts all night. It disrupts the entire household.

I have heard about types of discipline disorders? could it be that or what??? I took him to a psychologist years ago (about 2 years ago) and they tested him and said that nothing is wrong with him. He had counseling but after about 3 sessions she said he didn't really need counseling.

He behaves the worst at home. All of the things about is what he does at home. He does talk a lot in school and that disrupts the class (he is 5th grade) and hindesr his learning but that is all he does wrong at school. His brothers are not like this. They are normal boys... they are far from perfect and have their bad moments but nothing near the extremes of their 10 year old brothers disrespectulness, not listening and constantly causing tension.

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