Help! My 10 year old son is still having bed wetting accidents at night

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My 10 year old son still has bed wetting accidents at night. Not all the time, but at least 1 to 2 times a week, and is worst when he comes back from being at his dad's house over the weekend. I have taken him to a doctor and he gave him a prescription and that didn't seem to help at all. I feel bad for him, and I won't let him stay at friend's houses because I am scared he will have an accident and be embarrassed. I limit his fluid intake, I get him up in the middle of the night, but it seems to happen shortly after he goes to bed. I make sure he goes to the bathroom right before he goes to bed. I am looking for any ideas.

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Thank you so much for you reply. It makes me feel better to know that we are not alone. Next time he gets invited over to a sleep over, I will try and talk to the mom about it and see what she says about it. Hopefully she will understand and try and help him keep it a secret while he is there. I am just afraid his friends will find out and pick on him. We all know how mean kids are now a days and that is the last thing my son needs to deal with. Thanks for you reply and advice. It is much appreciated!!!

Jodi - posted on 02/01/2012

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Marcia, my step son only recently stopped wetting the bed, and he is 12. This is often perfectly normal. I am sure the doctor did a check up to rule out any medical issues? In which case, I think it is safe to assume that it is a maturity issue. It is more common in boys than in girls, and generally resolves itself once a boy hits puberty.



My step son tried the medication back around when he was 10 and it didn't work then either. But then he hit puberty, he still wet the bed, so the doctor suggested trying the medication again, we did, and it worked. He has been totally dry for 6 months now, whereas previously he was wet EVERY night.



My brother was a bedwetter, and he didn't grow out of it until he was 16 (back in those days, there was no medication option). My husband was also a bedwetter and he outgrew it just before he started high school, so he would have been about 12.



With the issue of staying overnight with friends, it may be best to have a quiet talk with the friend's mother about it, because she could be a great ally in helping make it possible to keep it under wraps. Same with things like school camps, talk to the teachers and you'd be surprised. They've dealt with it before - they have all sorts of ways to make sure they can keep things quiet and deal with it.



Another thing, make sure he is getting enough sleep. Often part of the problem is that they are tired and sleeping too heavily and can't wake up.

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Jodi - posted on 02/01/2012

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Marcia, I think you may be surprised how supportive, or nonplussed a true friend might be if they knew. My step son had one friend he is very close to who knows, it came down to my step son's mother talking to the mother of his friend, and then the other mother had a talk with her son, and he was fine with it, so sleepovers at his house were never an issue again. Play it by ear, and see how you go with it. But I totally understand why you are concerned. Kids CAN be cruel.

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