Annette - posted on 08/19/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
My 18 year old son is home for summer atfer one year of college. Says he's taking a semester off school but will go back. We found out he is smoking pot and taking pills (not sure what kind, he denied all of it) LITTLE ABOUT HIM. Went to a high school for kids that want to be in law enforcement. Was an explorer for the Sheriffs Dept for 4 years. Majoring in Criiminal Justice at a California State University. Has wanted to be in law enforcement since elementary school. He has wrecked his truck 3 times in the last 6 months. We pay his bills as long as he's in school. He did get a job part time at a fast food restraunt. He is very disrespectful, says he hates me and I'm a terrible parent. His 3rd accident he didn't tell us about we found out after the person he rearended, while on his cell phone(which he denied) insurance agent called us 10 days after the accident. A fight went on for 3 days, he said he's not going back to school. He's 18, he's a MAN. He moved out angry. We let him take his bed and anything else he wanted. We told him he couldn't take his truck. We bought it for him but its in our name. We told him he can have it back when he goes back to school. My husband thinks we should give it to him so we have leverage, we can use it by saying if he doesn't go back to school next semester we will take it away. I say we take it from him, take his cell phone and when he goes back to school we will give it back. I'm afraid he will kill himself or someone else in an accident. I said I will pick him up and take him to work, but he cant have the car. He said F__K You and hung up on me. Don't know what to do, he has me believing that I have been a bad parent, but I don't want to give into him. Im not sure if I'm doing whats best for him or myself.