help my 19 month old will not eat at daycare

Tai - posted on 11/15/2013 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My son is a picky eater he just recently started going to a daycare almost a month now. He will only eat the fruit and snack at the daycare. I am worried because he is there between 8 and 9 hours. Has anyone ever experienced this?

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Ev - posted on 11/16/2013

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Then maybe you need to give it another chance if they have gotten a cook who is certified to cook like that?

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Tai - posted on 11/17/2013

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Thanks for your advice Michelle but no thanks. I know its not the daycare fault that he won't eat a lot of things. And to answer your other question we do try to give him other things at home to eat and some things he ha started to like and some things I know it will take more time. All I wanted in the mean time is a little help from the daycare so I don't have to be concerned that my child is not eating good all day!

Michelle - posted on 11/17/2013

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I have a 14yo nephew that will only eat chicken nuggets and chips! They came to visit and I made a yummy roast with all the vege's and he wouldn't even eat a roast potato.
I can see where you're coming from Amber but most of my comments were to the OP, she admitted in the first line that her son is a picky eater.

Amber - posted on 11/17/2013

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Oh I know that my Cousin will only eat hot dogs chips junk food basically! Not even pizza! He refuses. And his mom just let's him eat what he wants. It's to the point where he eats absolutely no fruit. And not even a veg. It's bad.

Ev - posted on 11/17/2013

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I am not saying there was a thing wrong with the child but some kids do get what they want to eat and when they get presented with food that is good for them they won't touch it. I have seen this too. And it does make it harder to get other kids to eat their food if they see others bringing it as well. I am glad you got to stay home with him and the other. Some good old mommy time is just as good sometimes as daycare can be.

Amber - posted on 11/17/2013

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He no longer goes to daycare there anymore. I stay at home now with both my boys. An when he he did come to work with me. He ate thirds of everything. He was a pig. && I'm sure now that they have someone who knows what there doing in the kitchen he will eat there food. But it may sound dumb but there food was undercooked. && they did get in trouble for it. I didn't think just bc my kid wasent eating something was wrong with "him" like everyone else would think. I looked at the bigger picture.

Amber - posted on 11/16/2013

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By any means is my son a picky eater. He eats anything from fruit to sea food and hasent found a single thing he won't eat. The daycare wasent cooking there food correctly. So I called state. Turns out they didn't have a licensed cook which is a state regulation to cook in a child care setting. (There cook had no idea what to do) food was nasty I even seen it and tried it. My son wasent being picky. I don't blame him for eating under cooked spaghetti.

Michelle - posted on 11/16/2013

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I would be more worried about your child being a picky eater and wonder what you are doing about it rather than sending your own food to daycare. It's not their fault he's a picky eater. Do you just give him what he likes at home or do you make him try new things?
You should be teaching him at home to be trying new foods. That's the main thing is to try them. My kids sometimes will look at something and say they don't like it but they have to have at least 3 mouthfuls before I will accept they don't like it. Most of the time once they taste it they will eat it all.

Ev - posted on 11/16/2013

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But what they are worried about where I work is one child is allowed those foods and the others are not and have to eat what center provides. It is a if they let one do this they have to let all of them do it. And the center I work for depends on that USDA backing to make things work.

Amber - posted on 11/16/2013

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Yeah, ratios and everything are different from Ohio where I live and where my son went and ky where I worked. But there's ways around it. They can say it's against state and say all kinds of things. But in all reality u can do something about it. Just gotta dig and push. That's what I told all my parents who were frustrated at the point of leaving. I was honest with them.

Amber - posted on 11/16/2013

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I got a note from the doctor from my sons Ped. To take to his daycare and they took it. He wasent eating anything. And that's a red flag? He Dosent have allergies or helth conditions. He wouldn't eat. So I got a note and packed his lunch. Kentucky && Ohio state rules are a lot different. But that's where I'm from. Idk what state your in.

Ev - posted on 11/16/2013

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I also work in a preschool setting. And the only way that you can actually have different food is for health reasons or allergies not because your child does not like the food or is a picky eater. If you need to you could feed them something good for breakfast at home, let them eat the fruit or veggies and anything else at lunch, and the snack if they like that and then give them something at home again. Most schools are on a state set of regulations and nutritional guides by the USDA. Some are also use the USDA funding as well. That is why a lot of schools send home those forms to be filled out to see if a child qualifies for the lunch programs. So the only reason behind a doctor's note is for the child to have a certain kind of meal provided or sent from home for the health or allergy issues. I have seen parents in the past even bring in a child late and bring in MCD's or other fast food for their kid to eat because they took them out for an appointment or were late coming in and the other kids looked at it and wanted it but it could not be shared with. Others even brought food from home because it was all they would eat and nine times out ten it was just because they were too picking and parents did not take the time to get them to eat much else.

Amber - posted on 11/16/2013

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yes definitely get a note from the doctor just say hes not eating at school and I need one saying he wont eat he will deff give you on. then the daycare cant say anything but the lunches you bring from home have to meet the qualifications of the state meaning have all the food groups the childcare provides you must provide. I didn't take the situation lightly and neither should you!! (not being rude) :) because the daycare isn't allowed to not give a child food because he dosent like it they must give it to him anyways && there not allowed to give him something different, believe me they can tell you all they want ive worked in one for years and know how they work and all about the state rules (: they will try and play you! hes ur kid stand ur ground (:

good luck!

Tai - posted on 11/15/2013

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Thanks Amber for the reply it was really helpful. Unfortunately this particular daycare will not allow you to bring outside food. I did bring him lunch from home one day this week and his teacher said she was so happy because he ate so good. After i brought his lunch I had to speak to the owner and director about bringing it everyday and the owner was like because of the food program at the daycare they can not have any outside food. They asked me to make a list of the foods he like and if they have something he likes they can save extra for him for the next day. Not sure if this will work because it maybe one or two days out the week that he likes something the have. I don't maybe I will give it another week and then if not better I may have to look into a doctor note.

Amber - posted on 11/15/2013

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I worked in a daycare for 5 years. && my son went to anothe child are because we were full and not accepting new children.
My son would not eat lunch! Except the fruit! And his milk. Well one day I took my lunch break and spent it at his daycare. He did not know I was there because they have cameras in all the rooms I was watching them serve lunch well it was like the most god awful food I seen !! No wounder he wasent eating it. && to be honest the food in the center I was a pre k teacher at was not so good either. Ask to see the good they make. I did. && sure enough I packed his lunch from there on out. Had to get a doctors note but I did!


If that's not the case. It's prolly cause she's stressed she's in a new situation but once he/she is there awhile they will eat they will see all there friends eating and then say hey! I'm gonna eat my lunch to:) they wanna be like everyone else!

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